The other day I was preparing poori for breakfast and my DH was helping me in frying them. After making some pooris I was feeling very hungry & hence hurried a bit to finish off quickly. Till then pooris were puffing up nicely and were nice to eat. When I tried to finish off quickly they didn’t come out nicely; some came our crispy without any puffing, some were thick with less puffing. My DH questioned me about the difference in frying. Then I told him that to get a nicely puffed poori it need to be pressed with the belan using right amount of pressure evenly to a right amount of thinness. Listening to my answer he thought for some time and came up relating this example to kids. Parenting also needs apt amount of pressure on kids in order to get good results. The results will be mere negative when the balance in pressure is lost. Not only to kids, this paradigm also applies in every relation. To maintain a harmonious relationship with the people surrounding us, the pressure we expose them to, while expressing/expecting love and affection, the exact balance should be maintained. Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. ~RainerMariaRilke To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship. ~Doménico Cieri Estrada There are times when two people need to step apart from one another, but there is no rule that says they have to turn and fire. ~Robert Brault. P.S. - What you guys say matters more to me than my views.