The MIL's perspective on DIL - MIL conflicts: Why no woman starts a thread on it ?

The curiosity, which haunts an average man, more frequently than anything else in this world is, the question , ‘What goes on in women’s world’. That is why this website is popular among men also.

Like many men, Iam also a silent reader of this forum for a very long time. My most favourite section is ‘married life’ and ‘Relationshipwith In Laws’. Because, it centres around the frequent problem every household faces, including mine. The perennial conflict between MIL and DIL. Every single conflict going on between an Indian husband and his wife would be directly or indirectly related to MIL.

Many such threads, I can relate to the on going conflict between my wife and my mother.

Many members of this forum seem to be in their thirties or forties. They voice the view point of this MIL – DIL conflict from theperspective of a DIL, how her MIL harasses her, how her MIL tries to insinuate hatred in the mind of the husband towards wife, how her MIL loves to see the DIL in distress always.

There is no paucity of threads based on the perspective of DIL towards the above said conflict. But, the MIL’s version, the MIL’s perspective and threads based on the woes of a MIL are conspicuously absent inthis forum.

Behind every human action, there is a logic and reason (at least to that human being who is doing the action). Same way, a MIL who brings trouble to the DIL also must be having a logic or reason (no matter how irrational it may be to the others) which makes her behave in that malicious way. She must be feeling her son, who loved her hitherto so deeply, no longer does so, because of the newcomer , that is DIL. Similarly there must be some other reasons from the MIL’sperspective.

Why threads based on such MIL’s perspective towards the much talked about MIL – DIL conflict, are absent in this forum ? Or, they do exist and I am not able to reach them ? This forum must be having good number of femalemembers who are in their late forties and fifties, having one or more DIL. But,why these MILs are hesitant to voice their point of view in this website ? Out of the fear, that no one will buy theirversion ?

 

Re: The MIL's perspective on DIL - MIL conflicts: Why no woman starts a thread on it

Your assumption is wrong.

My point is, there is no scarcity of women in fifties and sixties age group, who are very active in the other sections of this website.

They are equally Internet savvy, computer educated also.

I am actively reading the other sections of this website also, like 'General Discussions', 'Movies' , 'Good to read' , 'Hobbies', 'Keep fit ' etc, There I see many female members in the age group of fifties and sixties. Some old women have even posted their real photos as 'avtar' also.

But, their view point on the DIL - MIL conflicts, is not available to listen to. Why ?.

 

Re: The MIL's perspective on DIL - MIL conflicts: Why no woman starts a thread on it

May be some of the MILs may be really thinking it as, "the tyranny of the DILs' also.

I am not judgemental as to who is tyrannical and who is not.

My point is, the other side of the argument, from the MIL's perspective, is totally absent , though there are many number of old female members in their fifties and sixties in this website !

Why ? Do these old women already know, in their hearts, that they are innately so wicked and hate filled towards their DIL, that there is no point in talking about it ?

Is it the reason why no old MIL comes forward to voice her view point on this frustrating issue ?