The Dark Inside!

Being human, all of us have light and dark shades of ourselves. The light shade is the outgoing one, filled with positive energy and confidence; what we aspire and believe to be with the best version of ourselves.

We also have a dark side within; demanding solitude, embracing loneliness, focusing on your ignored emotions; which can only think of the dark shades of life. These are our moments, when everything seems meaningless and holds no value of existence.

Why do you think our dark side, controls us more than we control it?

The dark side is our broken, rejected pieces of self; aching, left behind a closed door. It is our unresolved disputes with the world and every being we cross; the untold stories, the struggles, the nights filled with longing, missed times and many more.

These are so important to each one of us; these make us what we are as an individual, because all of us tend to preserve pain more than happiness.

But the question we fail to ask is; is it worth it?

We often forget that the dark shade in us spills out, covering our loved ones too. The toxin that the irritations, mood swings and complaints generate, leaves self and loved ones hurt. These create moments of pain, moments of misunderstanding, moments of emptiness, moments lost without love and most importantly; moments without peace.

All of us forget that we are trapped in a time managed game. Time is running out and nothing waits for us. When you look around, you realize that time has left you far behind and you are still trying hard to match up to its speed.

How can you deal with it?

Most of the people believe that positivity can eliminate any negativity. They find ways to keep their thoughts and focus on positive vibes. I do believe positivity is important, but, you cannot easily eliminate something that is part of you.

Firstly, it is important not to fight against it, rather - accept it. The way you accept your lighter side and understand it well; focus on understanding your dark side too. When you do that, you will have all your positive energy saved.

Secondly, acceptance completes you, adds meaning to your existence and makes you strong. Searching for perfection is foolishness; we would be immortal if perfection existed. In fact, our imperfections make us human.

Lastly, acceptance helps you let go the unresolved, unspoken and wounded parts of yourself. Let go unnecessary anger, effort to win over someone or trying to prove a point. Let go the hunger of always being right. Not winning an argument will not make you any less human than the other person, nor, not achieving the success accepted by the society will. So, let go all of it.

“Inorder for the light to shine so brightly, the darkness must be present” - Francis Bacon

Once you accept and understand your dark side, it becomes easy to control and deal with it. It is certainly a time consuming process, but when you make it happen, it can work wonders for you and lead you to a better path ahead in life……A life with peace, love & faith!

 

Some lessons are learnt the hard way. You are right - "We wouldn't realize that unless this is reinforced in our mind always."

Thank you so much for your feedback & kind words.. I am glad you felt this post could be FP.

#DarknessDoesntLast #StrengthIsWithin

 

Thank you again, @Rihana
I agree, nothing is impossible. I realized only after I could survive the worst of nightmares. Work still in progress with me, trying to accept the darker shade of self, I wont give up for sure.

Thank you @jayasala42 mam, great example with perfect timing of burning summer.

 

@Viswamitra Sir,

Thank you so much for your response, you always leave me stunned with your in depth analysis of each snippet.

You are absolutely right its our own will to direct our thoughts towards positivity or choose to dwell in the negative emotions caused by various experiences of life. But challenging part is acceptance, the moment we accept the bitter experiences & negative emotions we win over our fears & vulnerability.

 

@SCSusila Absolutely right! It takes time, effort & strength but when attained nothing like it.