So.. recently there was another 'episode' - an unprovoked tantrum. I promptly walked away, left him to feed the kid and get her ready for bed. We didn't speak to each other. I didn't do anything for him/them the next day : left the dishes unwashed (didn't load dishwasher), let them make their own coffees, came to kitchen later than usual to make breakfast. When H told his mom that he didn't want the side I had started preparing, I left it as such and walked away to have my drink, and MIL continued to make it. I poured idlis alone. Fed my kid, took her to preschool, came back, had my breakfast. Loaded dishwasher after that - let them make their own coffee and use whatever cups were around. And left to study. H spoke a couple of practical things - to do's - to which I answered in monosyllables (regarding some stuff he was supposed to get for all us). Then H didn't call or msg me all day. I came home again. And he started talking (not conversation, but more behavioural - not in fighting mode but normal mode) as if nothing happened. I stayed cool but in my own zone. Answered practicalities. Now he will 'move on' as if nothing happened. What should I do now? I don't want to 'move on' without addressing his behavior. I am also smarting that he chose to exclude me from certain activities that day : he merely gave me a intimation, like an FYI, before I left and did not bother telling me they were leaving, how it went etc as he usually does. (I know I shouldn't care and detach but this rebounding confuses me - what to do when he tries to include me, continue acting detached or ...?? what else ????). Best thing would be to 'communicate'. But words don't work - I've learnt that. Just explaining/discussing what happened is not going to make a difference. So, perplexed. How should I respond so he knows he cannot mess with me anymore - continue the distance, and push off his attempts to wheedle back in casually? Confusion is, that will make him turn it around on me, that he 'moved on' and was behaving normally but I was the one fighting... and give him an excuse to continue to exclude and behave unpleasantly. But I don't want to let him go on unscathed either... Am I making sense to y'all? Edit: Should I just continue in "you live in your world with your parents, I'll live in mine with LO, I won't do any extras for y'all, just meals n dishwasher (or less????)(surely less everytime u act up), lets talk abt practicalities only, don't tell me anything and I won't give a damn." ?