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Tamil Nadu is leading in divorce cases!

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  1. Jul 8, 2012 #1
    PushpavalliSrinivasan

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    People of Tamil Nadu are considered as conservative by people living in other states. But according to statistics they are the ones leading in divorce cases. Why this divorce very shakehead (வெறி) is taking place? Is it due to cultural degradation? We are the people who are boasting:rant about our culture.

    Do parents are forcing their wards for arranged marriages and so there is no compatibility between the couples?
    But according to the statistics even love marriages also break down for non- compatibility.

    It seems when people are in love they do not find any incompatibility. Only after getting married and start living together they realize the incompatibility.
    Intolerance, no compromise, no flexibility and egoistic mentality seems to be the reason for the fall out. I believe the reason for these shortcomings is due to late marriage. That's why our elders preferred to perform the marriages of daughters early, so that they will adapt to the new family environment. Though nowadays couples prefer nucleus family, still they find it difficult to adjust among themselves.

    The children are the ones who are seriously affected if the couples opt for divorce. Even the parents of the couples are also greatly affected. Though family courts are dealing with divorce cases and trying their level best by counselling the couples, the situation is becoming from bad to worse.

    What is your take on this matter?
     
    PushpavalliSrinivasan, Jul 8, 2012
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  2. Jul 8, 2012 #2
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    PS ma'am
    Very alarming trend! It's not just hte educated who opt for divorce.. it' rampant in all stratas.
    You have given all the valid reasons contributing to divorce,we are highly influenced by western culture.. misusing independence (rather have misunderstood the meaning).Parenting is also responsible for this.. the children never hear "NO" for an answer and they grow up not knowing what compromise i s all about,hence this situation.

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  3. Jul 9, 2012 #3
    PushpavalliSrinivasan

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    Dear Sowmya,
    Thanks for posting your first fb.

    The one child norm has lead to too much of pampering and so the parents give freedom that spoils the child.

    The western culture also plays a major role in this. It is very sad to see couples separating and children suffering for no fault of theirs.
    Love,
    PS
     
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    Dear Mrs. Srinivasan:

    It is time for youngsters to think whether establishing supremacy over the life partner is critical or achieving harmony between the two and lead an ideal and purposeful life is important. They need to understand that the institution of marriage is made out of two people from opposite sex becoming one entity to make a family and a home. They are equals and they need to care and provide unconditional love for each other. The words that should come to our mind when we think of stepping into the institution of marriage are sacrifice, support and satisfaction. The objective should be to do our role for the welfare of the others in the family without any expectations for ourselves. When we receive unconditional love and care, we need to gratefully acknowledge. The differences are healthier and it should remain within the four walls and the decisions are the ones that need to be expressed in actions by both spouses.

    Viswa
     
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    Dear Viswa,
    Thanks for stepping in and posting your valuable comments.
    If there is some genuine cause for divorce it is acceptable. But nowadays even for frivolous causes couples get separated and they do not think deeply about the outcome of their decision.

    Youngsters thoughts have become self-oriented and I have heard some telling why they should compromise.
    Love,
    PS
     
    PushpavalliSrinivasan, Jul 10, 2012
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