Suggestion Please - Sil Life Is Becoming Hell Because Of Her Ils

Ladies,

Here is recent update on my SIL. She has continued her pregnancy and DD is 30 march. At home, life became worse and no improvement till now. However, their is no physical torture but lot of mental torture. No one speaks to her including her husband. Some time mil open her mouth but with weird question and suggestion. For example, once she said you will have your own identity if you stay with my son else there is no identity of single woman. She works in a leading bank so last couple of days were really hectic for her, was stretching bank until midnight. Once her MIL called and told what are you doing till midnight out of home and she answered politely but her MIL was still calling her every day. Finally She answered , I am doing same work what your son is doing in his bank.

Update from our side - Me and DH are going to her city in Feb 1st week (she wants to stay till then and see situation) and pick her. All reservations are done for this. We have also planned to bring her permanently if situation doesn't improve and she agreed this time. She has also raised her transfer request with HR and hope she will get it before going to ML. She informed her husband on transfer request and seems he informed his mother. Mother called me next day and was blaming my SIL for all situation. Once I started her answering back, she cut the phone and didn't receive my phone again.

 

Dear all,

here is recent update and we are looking for some advise. My SIL gave birth to beautiful doll at our home. She is with my ILs since last 3 months. There was no call from her husband or ILs till her delivery. Me and my DH took leave to take care of her. When I my DH requested her husband to be with her atleast during her labor time, he said..i'll see but never came. Later on my FIL called her FIL to give good news and he got very neutral reaction (just 'OK' and hung phone). On 3rd day of her delivery, BIL and his mother came to visit her in hospital that too they stayed just for 30 min. While going her MIL said "You are my DIL and if you want to come, doors are open" that's it. after that no call till now (it is 24 days) neither from her DH or anyone from family.

This monday she called her husband to discuss their future. Initially he cut her phone for 3 time and 4th time when picked up, instead of asking about her..he directly asked - why did you call me?. When she told that I want to discuss our future and he told...I dont care about you or your daughter. Both of you go to hell. Seems there was heated argumnet for 3 hrs between them and all time BIL was blaming my SIL that she coudnt obey his mother and sister. And he didn want to stay in this marriage but just stayed as his mother asked. Even he didnt want to visit them in hospital..it is because of his sister asked.

So now my SIL wants to get rid of him but want to teach a lesson to his mother. She is saying thay I'll stay in there home for 1 month and will teach them (which is big no no to us as we cant trust on such people).

Me and DH are planning to file a case against them (Dowry and harassment) as it seems dowry is one of the reason of harrasment. They never told her directly but always taunted like xyz got this much dowry and your beggar parents didnt give us. Our plan is -

1, File a case with point a. Dowry - they taunted her many time. There was a FD on her name which she did before marriage with her sal and her FIL immediatly asked to break it and took all money. Husband forced her to transfer all her sal to MIL name as FD.
b. BIL has only one kidney which they never told us. When my DH confronted , her FIL said I have no idea. However this weekend my BILs grand father visited us to see kid and confirmed that even he knows it.
c. He is drunkard, which we came to know only after 6 month of marriage. My DH had asked me clearly before marriage but he told 'No'
d. None of the family member accompanied her to Dr visit during pregnancy or sickness.

Please suggest if these points can help. We are also searching a good family lawyer in our home town to make case strong. We really want them behind bar. Girl who was always famous for her smile has forgot how to smile.

 

Dear Shreema, We tried to save her marriage before kid and we were ready to support her in any of the discussion. Unfortunately, we were not aware about her situation other than some here and there issue and assurance from SIL and her DH. Most of things we came to know this last august when she came to our home but that time she was pregnant. Even I suggest her to abort baby and leave that home but she still had hope.

Thansk SGBV, I also have similar opinion and want her to get separated from this kinda toxic enivironment.Regarding dowry, it is not false case..every morning, night her MIL, SIL and DH were taunting her (isn't metal harassment?) that your father didnt give us. We spent 15-20 lakh in her marriage and thought it is last marriage in our family for now, so should be best. Even they asked only a good marriage (we hired their vehicle DJ etc as they didnt have any connection in our place (it is their native too). Everything given to them were best (like furniture were best in the shop, gift to IL family etc). Even during her recent discussion with DH, he told my SIL, your brother took car from his IL ( it was for my DH and there was no demand from DH for any thing. It was from my brother side and he still says whatever is in this home (belong to dad) is for all of us (me and my brothers) and didnt give me even a cycle.

Thanks dear..no way..this time i'll not let her go alone. I clearly told her..even you force us..we will not let you go with kid. My DH has already spoke to one of his friend who is a good lawyer and from NLM. We are just waiting for another month so that first she recover from her C-section.

Thanks dear..my whole family is just disturbed because of them. She was youngest and most loving girl in the family. We definitely want to punish them..they spoiled her life and dont want them to spoil any one else life. Her MIL is one who spoiled her FIL and MILs life and forced her husband to separate from all her relative. Unfortunately, we came to know this after marriage and didnt take it seriously. My SIL noticed this while staying with them that they do not have any relation with their relatives or extended family.