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Stupid Husband

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by poojaagar, Aug 16, 2019.

  1. poojaagar

    poojaagar Bronze IL'ite

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    No actually he is fed up with his job where he has to please clients to get his contracts for his company which he has been doing for long now..he hates to do that and i kind of agree its difficult too. He says he cant do this for long..
     
  2. poojaagar

    poojaagar Bronze IL'ite

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    Hmm i am thinking abt this
    But all i say when he has a good job just bcos he is fed up he wants to quit..but all ppl are working like hell to keep up with the competition right?
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Yes. True.
    Your husband is very confused
     
  4. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    Maybe he is tired. You say he is honest.... Maybe his straight forwardness make everyone think he isn't in the system.
    Hope he doesn't bitch, tell lies, drink with bosses, smoke with bosses, contractors, go on pleasure trip to Bangkok.
    He wants a break. Since you have a PR, it's easy to get a franchise of small org, home based stock options, small business owner export import of Indian goods in overseas, freelance work...You made a PR for him tell him he can choose any job. There is no harm in being taxi driver. Once my Uber driver was a physician from a very big univ, she said she needs to pay her student loan. Nothing wrong I say. But give him time.... I can understand your frustrations.
    Once my bro said he wanted to be a writer he didn't had a quora, blog or anything. Now works in Finance..... Give him a definite time line. Give him some financial burden like rent, health insurance bills. Etc.
    He is not entirely wrong. I would say that
     
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    poojaagar Bronze IL'ite

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    Oh yes you are right..whatever you said for getting a job, he has to do to certain extent but that is todays life..but what if he leaves he will be out of the system..im worried abt saving for my kids univ etc
     
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    Amulet Platinum IL'ite

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    How many, of what kinds, have you got so far ?
    In which country do you have a PR (some offer free college) ?
     
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    KashmirFlower IL Hall of Fame

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    Telling I will drive taxi and really doing with correct timings, getting clients good will and constant business , doing it for long term is different
    Is he done this for ew years ? what is his long term job plans ?
     
  8. poojaagar

    poojaagar Bronze IL'ite

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    he is confused himself whether he wants to continue his job or come with me and live so that he can drive taxi and manage..but i can say he is satisfied with his job right now but for family he wants to come and live with us..long term plans if he still in his job then he wants to head the team but he feels with another country passport he can do that well..so i really dont understand this fellow..so greedy on converting citizenship
     
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    poojaagar Bronze IL'ite

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    Australia
     
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    shravs3 IL Hall of Fame

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    I thought you both are staying together.

    There is nothing wrong in wat your husband is thinking. He just wants to live with you and your kid.
    How long can one stay without any family member around ?

    Don’t know how often you guys meet but believe me it’s not so easy to stay away from spouse / family.

    I have experienced tat due to our jobs from past few months and it’s really difficult inspite of we meeting every weekend and even we stay in abroad without parents / family nearby.

    This setup is fine if it’s temporary but not for long term.

    It may sound little harsh but sorry but weren’t even you greedy in getting PR and moving to other country!??

    Also you seem to be very contradicting in your thoughts. Firstly you said he is very lazy and doesn’t want to do any work,
    but from above post it seems to be totally different.

    Both of you must come on terms wrt to career and life
     
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