When hormones act up, boy and girl have no problem with mutually agreeable behaviors. However, while all the rest of the stuff you had listed go on, there has to be compensating behaviors to make up for the changes in the outward looks of either party. Girls who get pregnant with a husband who is not yet a friend, a confidence sharer, and number one aficonado do such a thing, because.... they see that as the only way to gain acceptability in the new family they are not well informed about family planning, and why it is necessary in the early years of a marriage other reasons that only she knows Once a couple of kids are in the family, and the young mother is x sizes larger than her wedding day, husband is still not such a well-known quantity, their conversations gets straight jacketed into affairs of the children, and the ever present problems with house utilities - gas, electric, water, groceries, in-laws etc. etc. It is all well and good to say "this should happen.... that should happen..." etc... However when reality tells a girl/mother "what is happening", her solutions to salvage her marriage does not lie in punching him, or goading him, or plead for something. OP's solutions have to be something she can put into action without any loss of self respect. That was the rationale for my prescription from the earlier post. Fatten the feller, and ask him questions about the office when his nose is in the tasty trough.