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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by jananrems, Jun 15, 2019.

  1. sokanasanah

    sokanasanah IL Hall of Fame

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    I think she was referring not to promiscuity, but to a generally more open-minded ethos - not holding a divorce against a woman for example.
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    Hmm, but - In context of this thread and context of how it was written, sounded a bit different - more like "people these days do all sortsa* things and have fun yaar! jollyness, and they get away with it!! Hmm we grew up to have a boring life" sorta thing. Atleast that's the immediate interpretation that comes in that context of how its written, in my humble opinion.

    * the all sortsa here does include and reference fun in terms of a bit of getting drunk, carefree sex in the moment/heat of it, and 'next gen folks getting away with the jollyness', given the promiscuity thread
    ** jollyness - indianized english term
     
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  3. yellowmango

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    You had drunken sex but confessed to fiance.
    That was the right thing to do....as this had to be sorted out before marriage .

    He forgave you.
    It is between you too....
    If he forgives ,then you shouldn't care about others.

    What you should care about is if he really did forgive.
    What is the reason,is he broadminded?
    Too much in love to lose you?
    Cares too much about his reputation?
    You are rich or sucessful?
    Could be anything ...just be sure the reason is something you are fine with and that he will not bring this up in future.

    Start with a new slate and either give up alcohol or seriously analyse how much you can take without losing your better senses.

    Also ...stay close to safe people like your fiance or a girlfriend if you want to drink .
     
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    I really really appreciate the way you provide your responses :) you make everything look logical and provide a solution to it. Kudos to you :thumbup:
     
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    I can sleep around in whichever year I was born but after 90s apparently we dont feel guilty and remorse i guess. And its pretty casual to do it and hop on with life LOL
     
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    If someone said to me when I was 16-17(yes, at that age everyone or most of them wants to have it badly), I would have agreed, but not now at my age. I don't think it's cool to sleep around and have a list of experiences that only make one look bad as a role model in front of kids or youngsters. What can I preach to others if I am myself in a bad state?
     
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    Well said , and right if you cannot even have ethics and decency, how would you even begin to expect ethics from your kid lol :)
     
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    Sarcasm is lost on a few people here. No one is endorsing sleeping around . @senorita2019 “duck and cover” LOL



     
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