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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by jananrems, Jun 15, 2019.

  1. SinghManisha

    SinghManisha Platinum IL'ite

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    Sorry :tearsofjoy:. I saw this recently in the news, a street vendor taking toilet water . I make panipuri at home. It is not as “jatak” though.

    Casual sex is having pani puri with alcohol infused toilet water. Lol


     
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  2. startinganew

    startinganew Gold IL'ite

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    Op, my concern here is if your fiancé is ok with it only because of the public disgrace that his family has to go through for calling off a wedding after a public engagement has been had. Would you be able to know if he is truly OK with it or if he is gulping it down to save face? I know this is very hard to say. If he is only gulping it down - because he can’t imagine going to his mom and telling her what has happened - after seeing all her happiness at the upcoming marriage and maybe even her pride at having chosen a good partner for him - then you will have to bear the brunt of this for your married life many times over - sorry for the gloomy prediction but post engagement or any fling after partners have chosen to be exclusive is a big no-no.

    Also please please spend some time introspecting why it happened. Is there something you are compromising with your fiancé - good looks, hotness or just anything else that you value but know you will be missing out with him? I feel like there was something deeper than just drunkenness that convinced you to go ahead with the whole act. (Something like - this is my one last time - let me just do it) I would call a kiss an accident or a longer embrace than is needed an accident at a moment of weakness but not sex.
     
  3. Sandyr46

    Sandyr46 Finest Post Winner

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    We and our opinions will b considered as old school. In an age of live-in relationships and casual sex the true value of marriage and relationships is all lost. With gadgets promoting apps like 'Tinder' and the likes what can we expect. Recently heard a lady who shot her own suicide video drunking poison because her hubby working in Singapore did not approve her addiction to Tik-Tok. Her addiction had got so bad that apparantly she was neglecting her own child and so her hubby happened to reprimand her over it and this silly woman valued Tik-Tok over her life and family n so committed suicide. How much more wierd is this world we are going to get. We can only try to instil values in our children but with the current trend I see amongst teenagers unsure how much more worst this will get.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Hehe. Chill girl:blush:
     
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    Amulet Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks to @jananrems for coming back to address many of the responses.
    A polite thing to come back and offer closures to those who commented on your predicament.

    Good luck with your wedding and life.
     
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    Just ignore him.so that he can move on in his life.
    tnx
     
  7. sarvantaryamini

    sarvantaryamini Silver IL'ite

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    Is your marriage arranged or love? There is something wrong if your fiancee did not cancel the marriage. It is not a small thing even for someone who knows you very well. If I were you, I would either postpone or cancel the marriage altogether.
     
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    senorita2019 Gold IL'ite

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    I feel the OP didnt really disclose this with the would be husband. Because I dont think the guy would be OK and raise no red flags unless he is a bigger playboy himself (Still men want their wives faithful so i doubt she told him ... :coldsweat:)

    Looks like me staying in a 15 yr bad marriage was like living in a cave while kids these days sleep around left right and center LOL.

    Wish I was born in the 90s.
     
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    shravs3 IL Hall of Fame

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    Being born in 90s too doesn’t make one to lose ethics lol :sunglasses:
     
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    rgz Gold IL'ite

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    Why? sleeping around (even if inebriated) is not to be coveted. I agree with Shravs, born in 90 or 2000 does not change ethics and hopefully we dont look longingly at it to covet it :)
     
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