Sometimes Things Have To Go Sour To Appreciate The Sweetness ?

Thank you so much @beautifullife30.

Its hard to push some positive thoughts in someone's mind, when I myself am not sure what to do with my situation. We both are now telling each other that its all going to be okay and we will have great time - once again.
she tells me not to worry as nothing has been confirmed yet, I tell her the same. Pretty much like , "Good luck" and "Thank you, same to you"

As I said in my response to @justanothergirl , Cancer has been my buddy since my childhood. I have seen my dad struggle with it. I remember the blood stains on the bed, the way he fainted in the living room. I can never forget how much he tried hiding the pain. It was not easy to see my hero collapse in a pool of blood when he walked into the toilet on the fateful morning. It hurts me as a daughter, but I admire how he faced Cancer - many doctors confirmed that he had that will power to face the cancer else he would have died in less than 3 months after surgery. Its not easy but getting depressed about it wont help either.

That's the reason why I keep telling my MIL to face it boldly and that I would be with her throughout, I don't want her to think that she is alone. Its scary to think that she is alone in this fight. And she is scared. and worrying does nothing except for pushing her BP to highest peaks - which is not good for her.

 

Thank you JAG. Am sorry if my earlier response was rude. I did not mean to hurt you.

 

Team IL, I have an update.
MIL has been through a major surgery and now she is on Chemotherapy.

I must say being so far away and not being by her side in this time has been a painful experience.
But I have come to understand something. Certain aspects of relationships do not change come what may.
People act or people attempt to prove that they are changed and things are all rosy.
Truth is nothing changes.
MIL is very bitter about the other DILs. She bad mouths them big time , every time I speak to her.
I believe in "a person who steals for you will steal from you". If my MIL is badmouthing the other DILs to me, she will surely badmouth me when she is talking to them. If not today, then tomorrow. Because for my MIL that's the time pass activity - complain, bad mouth and feel relieved.

I have now learnt to ignore all that. I have learnt to just say, "hmm" when she talks to me and not react to anything.
She is sick. And is yet to recover. I tried telling her to stay and talk positive. She would not listen. Her sons explained. No use. So now I gave up and just ignore.
I cannot control what she speaks and how she feels about others. But I can control on how I want to react.
So peace prevails in my mind now.
If talking and bad mouthing people gives her some peace - so be it. Not my problem, not my peace.
Peace prevails in her mind too.

In all this, I thank God for having helped her during the major operation and pray that she should recover to normal health very soon. I cant see DH being stressed about mum, most of the days - I know what it feels like to have that fear of losing a parent. Cannot see anyone in that position, let alone DH !