society's ideas about MIL !

Re: society's ideas

there is no point ...mils have the basic insecured problem tht arises soon aftr their son's marraige...till tht time thy wil not even be bothered to knw whether their son is eatin well or not if he is away and most of the times nowadays situations are like sons moving abroad fro earning well the name and fame and money...as the dils enter the house they start to shower more and more of concern...a bit of drama...son surrenders to mum only and to none else...meanwhiel making the situation tough fro all the three...y not release all these habits and be free.. i tooo dont understand...life's like that...but if involved with ease ..then life is even more interesting playing mind games with mil and heart games with hubby...hmm. ...am lovin' it....:-D

 

Re: society's ideas

Dear Sriniketan,
It would be easy for me to say but why not enjoy watching the dramas with a detached attitude/heart.

When I was young and unmarried, I was worried about MILs because I had six older married sisters and I had seen them go through hell with their respective MIL. My mom had one advice for my sisters "Patience – Poruthavar Boomi Aalvar". It was helpful but not all the time. But I watched my sisters bloom into smarter and wiser ladies.


The virtue of patience my mother extolled helped to an extent.


I was terrified of MILs by the time I got married. But I was lucky (one in a million )– got a wonderful mother-in-law who treated me like a daughter. However, recently we have got into a silent tiff. She is so angry with me. I did nothing wrong as far as I know, it is all my husband’s doing, yet I am getting brunt of it :idontgetit: .


Though I feel sad, I refuse to let it weigh me down and I refuse to let her make me feel guilty. I am just watching the drama and letting time mend the problem. I hope my MIL sees the clearer (whole) picture. But Father Time might take a long time. I will wait. And meanwhile I will do other things.

Gem

 

Dear Sriniketan,

We all live by some pre-conceived notions and what you wrote about are some of them. Even if we do not have these preconceived notions, time imposes them on us. No two people in this world can have similar views, likes and dislikes. The problem comes when these dis-similar views and likes and dislikes clash and people are unable to handle them.

Getting a "good name"???? - that is impossible to get from in-laws, unless they have some angels sitting inside their brains, which happens very rarely! I think one should not even try to get that good name.....it is all transitory...one may get a good name in the morning, but by evening things would have changed. How many of us encounter situations where we do something to please others even if that is against our own beliefs. And in the end nobody is pleased with it and we feel bad.

 

Re: society's ideas about MIL!

Sri,
I wish there is a class for some mother in laws who does not know the difference between good and evil mind. I also feel bad when we try our best to be a good DIL but they do not recognize it and on the contrary complaining about us. Hope they understand the survival technique, which would benefit them more than any others.

 

MIL's r angel to hubby.....wife is evil.:icon_frown: sorry to say but I feel that in my life.This is true it is not for all.sometimes I feel commited to suicide when realize the transformation of my hubby.He was totally different before marriage.:icon_frown:

 

PIU,

What you said is right!!!!!!!!

 

dear nivedi,
ur right getting gud name from inlaws is not possible....regarding myself she will never accepts my gud things instead she point out small mistakes using lens....

regards
amsa