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Social Isolation

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by skalluri, Apr 16, 2015.

  1. skalluri

    skalluri Gold IL'ite

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    I know USA is a country where social life is hard to get.
    I try my best to mix with people, but still feel no sense of belongingness

    People have so much ego problems and including kids they get easily offended for small small things.

    Kids when playing together, if they get fight, we cannot say firmly to anybody, we have to have self control and tell the same to our kid but cannot say anything to other kid.

    I have only one son, if I ask invite any kid for play date, they dont show interest, why? some directly comment your son needs sibling (yes I couldnot go for another pregnancy due to health problems, what should I do)

    If they cannot come to my house, how can I ask them if I can send my son over . they should invite right?

    It is very hard to gather children for celebrating birthday

    we have money to buy toys, games etc, what is the use if there is no good company. ofcourse I play with my son, but kids need kids of their age. what kind of life I am giving to my son. It makes me guilty.

    people will have their own circle and get engaged with their circile of friends and dont care to include us.

    How should I face this social isolation.

    can anybody relate to my situation.

    dont tell me , try taking him to mall, barnes and nobles, enroll him in activities , going for vacations etc.. I tried all these things and beeing doing them also . these will engage him but cannot give him the good company to play.

    Just feeling helpless..
     
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  2. Radhai

    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    Would having online friends via games (age appropriate & time controlled) work?
     
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  3. MyselfandI

    MyselfandI Silver IL'ite

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    Sorry for your situation, try to find out kids from the Indian community who are also in similar situation , also try to create good environment during play date by taking precautions that no thing should go wrong , and at the same time don't be over sensitive
     
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    MyselfandI Silver IL'ite

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    more than good it does harm in the long run
     
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  5. Radhai

    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    In the light of the practical situation of OP, suggesting lesser of the two evils - lonely vs controlled exposure :D
     
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    MyselfandI Silver IL'ite

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    yes i do agree :D a temporary solution for time being
     
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  7. smuruga

    smuruga Senior IL'ite

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    I can totally understand your situation...I am going through the same...But I will say by time it will get better....Now my daughter is having 2 good friends.....She can play with them anytime. Both of them are little younger but still she plays with them very well. My suggestion will be keep trying I am sure he will get atleast one or 2 friends. It's ok to just get few good friends instead of too many acquaintances....So please keep trying....Keep watching with whom your son feel comfortable and keep trying play dates with that boy/girl. I am sure you will help your son too in getting good friends for him....
     
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    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    Unfortunately for some practical situations, it is a long time solution. A case of heart knows it wrong, situations mandate otherwise.
     
  9. jskls

    jskls IL Hall of Fame

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    my dd is going to enter 9th this fall and till now she doesn't have a good indian friend to count on. whatever she has is limited to her school. Not sure how old your child is, once they start going to school you will find more. I did live in top indian community but still it was difficult. yes it is hard for a single child, but that's why we enroll in some class/activity or the other where they have interaction with other kids too. As others said don't be sensitive that was my main issue.
     
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  10. MyselfandI

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    hmmm......
     

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