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Social Drinking ??

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by nolife, Jun 6, 2019.

  1. Roar

    Roar Gold IL'ite

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    Drinking to socialize is still ok. I do when I don't want to be in attention for not drinking.
    Socialise to drink isn't.

    Whatever is the reason.. alcohol messes you up is a fact, people can call it fashion or can call it cool or a way of relaxing.. but it aint giving a shite. It will do what its meant to do.

    I am not a teatotaler but I am aware of its potential and wary of it. No, we don't do 'drink get togethers' at home nor offer people when they visit as we got kids and we don't want to make it the definition socialising. You CAN have a great time with people or friends without alcohol additive.
     
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    Amulet Platinum IL'ite

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    Red wine was deemed necessary for the certain Christian denominational worship on Sundays. So... during the alcohol prohibition era in America, a special dispensation was given to the church to make wine for prayers. The "Christian Brothers" is now a large, and famous winery in California. Red wine is also a typical traditional drink at festive occasions at home, although other types (Rosé, white, sparkling etc..) are added in these modern times.
    Red wine is served at or close to room temperature (if left-over red from the fridge is served, it has to be allowed to warm up to room temperature before serving), and sometimes it is pre-aerated (pouring out of the original bottle, and into another serving beaker-jar) before serving into a wine glass. Non pre-aerated red wines are swirled in glass to aerate, before drinking. This is why Reds are served in small quantities, as well as in large glasses -- to allow room in the glass to swirl the wine. Aeration changes the bouquet (smell). This is the reason a wine glass is (sometimes) called a snifter (something to sniff the smell). Glass designs would often offer a hint as to how much to serve, and whether or not there would be a bouquet to enjoy. Larger rim openings, to let your nose into the glass (and sniff), are more of a snifter than tall small rim circumferences, as in champaign/sparkling wine glasses.
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    Rims that flare-in are used to serve liquor whose vapours can come back in (because of the flare-in at the opening), and linger for the taster to enjoy. You will see such designs in wine glasses that have a special smell (like most Pinot Noir varieties) and in Brandy serving glasses. Rims that flare-out (in glasses with a waist) are used to serve bubbly (sparkling, letting out CO2 gas) drinks. They dissipate, rather than focus the gas into your nose.

    Some wine-glass sellers would recommend the maximum amount of wine that can be served in a glass with pictorial hints on their website. When in doubt, serve about <25% of capacity is a good rule. Serving close to the rim is always in bad taste.
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    One of the huge problems of Reds come if someone spills on a nice tablecloth. After swabbing with cold-water sponge, Salt is rubbed into the stain, and machine washed. There are a few how-to videos on it in the internet.
     
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  3. lukywife

    lukywife Gold IL'ite

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    For some reason I hate such men that drinks with friends leaving the wife behind. My husband drinks alone with me. He never likes to drink with his friends, he is a very independent guy who loves to chat with me while drinking. He drinks when I’m With him, we chat casually. Sometimes I drink wine with him. It feels good really. We both don’t like our friends around when drinking. We love doing it and enjoy private chats.
     
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    Amulet Platinum IL'ite

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    ha...ha... touché !! A clever Freudian slip in the punch ! Nice :blush:!
    Such a lot of life's problems can be solved with a wee bit of privacy, and alcohol, both taken in moderation.
     
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    It is good to find someone with common habits :)
     
  6. Hopeless4lyf

    Hopeless4lyf Senior IL'ite

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    I absolutely love the way you defined this "Drinking to socialize is okay, socialize to drink isn't"
    My dear husband found a "drinking buddy" last year. Who was a terrible influence and I had many sleepless night due to this guy's influence on my husband. I told him numerous times that but he was practically tied to the hip with his "bro". Whenever they went out it was all about drinking, going to a place that doesn't serve alcohol was never on their agenda. As my husband called it drinking was a way to "have fun" mind you this is after one of his previous roommate during college totaled my husbands car drunk driving and got a DUI. My husband still thinks drinking is "way to have fun" despite of being permanently scarred as a result of that accident. and I am totally right there with you that you can certainly have a good time without drinking. My best friend who himself drinks admits I was living a very fun and a good life before I got married and it never involved drinking.

    I am literally on the verge of separation because of my husbands habits, which is not just limited to drinking. Because for him he calls is "occasional" drinking which is at least twice a week when we go out for dinner. And IF at all he ever gets to see a friend getting wasted is his agenda.
     
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    I am sorry you are in a fix.
    This was the potential I was talking about. Yes, one might have to have a sip or two BUT being conscious of it is important.

    I do consume yes, but never really vote for it myself. Alcohol, smoking, drugs they come in the same category. Its not preach, its fact. Albeit being anti- human body they are named 'cool' and 'relaxing'..when the same relaxing feeling comes from with in ( rather than a glass of wine), its waay more pro- body and lasts longer. Are we all fans of 'quick-fix' or what.

    Tell your husband that you want to leave and he can have all the drink he wants. Men don't work with nagging, it works reverse. When he is able to listen, tell him you are leaving because he is behaving like a over grown baby. You could even actually pack and leave for a week or two ( or three).

    However, its very difficult to work on a person who is not ready to work on himself/ herself. Good luck .. Hope.
     
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    Hopeless4lyf Senior IL'ite

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    It's not like I don't or at least didn't drink I did but it was like just to say " I also drink" Otherwise it has never been about the alcohol itself for me. I know Life beyond alcohol and also its hell of a good one, because at least you are sober enough to enjoy it. And I can't leave him, at least not right now. ( Details in another thread "Stuck in it together") my dad thinks women nagging men about their habits makes them want to do it more. I am like well than they must be very weak to not be able to control it and want to harm themselves. If someone was bugging me about something and I knew they were right I wouldn't do it more just to provoke them.
     
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    Hopeless4lyf Senior IL'ite

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    YES YES YES & More YES
     
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    The guy I spoke to was exactly like this..Half an hour of our call went on his drinking habits. I am sure he is alcoholic . I am still ok if he drinks outside home once in a while but it looks like his whole family drinks.
     

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