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Six Different Criteria Needed to be Considered as an Ideal Wife

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  1. anurar20

    anurar20 IL Hall of Fame

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    Six Different Criteria Needed to be Considered as an Ideal Wife - Qualities of a Good Housewife

    The answer to this question is given in Neethisaram (also referred to as Neeti Saara or Niti Sastra). According to a popular verse of Neeti Sara which is written by a man, the 6 Noble Virtues a housewife should have are summed up in the verse,

    'Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri; Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni'.

    Neeti Saara is a very popular collection of morals written by Telugu Poet Baddena aka Bhadra Bhupala who lived during the 13th century. Since this was written by an Indian keeping in mind the Hindu culture, it outlines the qualities an Indian bride should have.

    1) Karyeshu Dasi: works like a servant (Hardworking)

    2) Karaneshu Mantri: advises like a minister (Brilliant)

    3) Bhojeshu Mata: feeds like a mother (Caring)

    4) Shayaneshu Ramba: Pleases in bed like the heavenly beauty Rambhav (Romantic)

    5) Roopeshu Lakshmi: Beautiful like Goddess Lakshmi (Beautiful)

    6) Kshmayeshu Dharitri: Having patience like Earth (Forgiving)

    Shat dharma yuktah Kula dharma Patni - And thats the Indian wife.

    Why no such duties have been made yet for husbands?


    May be because the slokas in Sanskrit are mainly written by men and as men wrote them only wifing process is defined so well.

    Lets see what we get, if same thing is applied on Males:

    1) Bhogeshu Raja : Rich

    2) Vachaneshu Rama : Honest

    3) Chaturasya <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:eek:ffice:smarttags" /><st1:place w:st="on">Krishna</st1:place> : Brilliant

    4) Dhairyeshu Karna : Daring

    5) Roopecha Indra : Handsome

    6) Kaameshu Madana : Romantic

    Shatdharmayuktha manadharma Ramana - the dear husband.

    A marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership between the Husband and Wife. Having said this I also agree that woman/man should thrive to achieve these 6 fold role to have a happy and successful marriage. I am a firm believer of ‘Treat your Husband/Wife exactly the same way you want yourself to be treated’. What you give is what you get in return. Give love, respect and care to your Partner and you are sure to get it back from him/her.

    Anyway, each and every being has his own way of thinking. So I leave the judgement to the readers.
     
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    very nice dear thank u to share this
     
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    Anu, I loved your creative and clever verse for the male counterpart!

    Yes indeed, all these qualities are desired in their partners by everyone, but it is upto each of us to bring out the best in our partners, by always offering the best that is there in us.
     
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    Nice post.


    :biglaugh:biglaugh:biglaugh:biglaugh
     
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    if you really read the versus in sanskrit it depicts women to be men pleasure thing .... why do these people treat women like this ... if we treat the men then it depicts women to be arrogant , ill treating the husband but the vice versus the men gets the praise " you treat your wife nicely thats why you get so well treats from your wife " .....
     
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    That was very interesting to read anurar20. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    anurar20 IL Hall of Fame

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    Thank you all...............
     
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    Those who wrote this realised way back then that Husbands will make mistakes...hence Kshmayeshu Dharitri :bowdown:bowdown
     
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    Nice post Anu...

    Thanks for sharing dear...
     
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    Beautiful. If a husband and wife live by all the abovesaid virtues, no divorces shall happen.

    Thank you very much for sharing the marital dharmas.
     

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