Hi all, This is my first post on IndusLadies.... I have gone through lot of posts here and I really appreciate the kind of support you guys give in much needed times.. Right now, I am also going through a complex situation in my life.. and really need your councelling.. I am married for more than 2 years.. my husband is very caring, my ILs are also loving at times, but there are still lots of issues.. and the main issue is my SIL, she is younger to my huband, but of similar age to me.. As we got married, we were not living in my DH's hometown but in a nearby city, my SIL soon moved with us coz of her job in the same city.. inspite of ours being a 3 bedroom appartment, she was sharing room with us.. each day nd night.. it was big thing for me, I talked to my DH about this, but he just humiliated me and asked me to leave house if I had issues.. I din want to spoil our marriage for my parents sake, so I continued to live there.. We used to visit my ILs every weekend, and they knew about it, they infact asked me to take care of their daughter and told me that I should never leave her alone, not even let her sleep in different room.. they really kind of emoyionally blackmailed me.. time passed, and this created a difference b/w me and my DH, and also b/w me and my SIL..my DH would always get up early morning and prepare breakfast for her (i would prepre on my own). I was suppose to take of her like a princess. Honestly, I could not do that. After few months, she moved to a different city. Just after she moved, my DH apologised to me and said that he understand whatever happened was not right but I should not keep anything against his sister in my heart. Even my FIL called and told me that they are proud of me and that next time onwards he will ask my SIL to stay in a different room. I moved on.. But I my marriage has always been conditional.. We should regularly call her.. and my FIL would aways tell me, we wanted a DIL like their daughter and I should try and become like her... this really was very hurtful. She on the other hand, was very sweet in talking to me, very respectful, so I din have much complaints against her at that time. But with time I realized that she so much manipulating. If we din call her for a day, my FIL would call us and tell that she is missing us and crying for us.. my DH is very sensitive for his sister.. After few months, my SIL again started visiting our place on weekends ( those weekend we would not go to my ILs place).. and I was shocked this time when she again lived in our room.. even if she goes to another room for some time, my DH will go and call her back.. what a double standard family I am into, I thought! I dont know guys if I am overreacting but trust me, it was very painful for me.. my DH is so caring for her, that even when he shows any care for me, i dont trust him for his genuinity.. Few months back we moved to US, she cried so much when we were coming here.. things are still the same.. though this period has brought me and my DH to come closer, care for each other all the time, and I now feel genuinity in his feelings for me.. but most of the times he is thinking about my SIL only, even when he is with me, he would call me by her name.. this makes me think that she is in his mind all the time.. also we call her frequently and she is always missing us and crying for us.. Before coming to US, me and my DH went to a 3-day trip for the first time after honeymoon.. and we couldn't call her for a day, so she called us and was angry that we have forgotten her.. my DH would give her all the explanations.. I am now very open my husband about my feelings and have tried to share things, but he will always tell me that I am jealous and I should me more like his sister (loving and caring) Guys, i really need your help here.. I don't know if I am wrong in behaving like this.. I dont want to bother about all this stuff, rather focus more on my career, my parents, friends, but its getting really suffocating day by day.. I cant talk to her for a minute.. but I have to I don want to spoil our marriage either, my parents will not be able to take that.. Please help me!