HI Ladies I have a confusion in mind and wondering what to do. My SIL (DH brother's wife) gave us new of her miscarraige at 10 weeks. We were all very excited for the good news and now feel really awful for whats happened. The issue is I have my daugters birthday we are celebrating on Saturday and have all preps done. invites have gone out for over 80 people. In our family we dont announce pregancies until past 12 weeks and therefore no one knows about this at all. There was a discussion about this in the family after the news and I was of the opinion we should cancel the event for Saturdau by just announcing "unforeseen circumstances event has been cancelled" however my FIL says we should carry on as its kids birthday but my MIL says carry on but no music (with her opinion i would disregard all as she has a her own hobby art display the same day for guest to view so she would not want to miss that for the world) My say is we either cancel as non of us feel upto it with the same charm we had before the news or carry on as normal but in our hearts we know how it feels. My SIL and BIL dont want this news to be annouced which ofcourse is understandable. What would you do. Cancel or carry on?