Should I Marry my Fiancee - Please Advise

passionate89 · Nov 18, 2012

You love to surprise her but she does not respond well or try to surprise you rather complain.

She compares others with you.. Actually speaking we may have 101 friends who are good looking, good personality, good natured, bold etc etc.. but even if our loved one may not have some of these qualities, that would and should not bother us to compare with others.. we should change their negatives in a good way but not compare..

You asking her to reach home early and safe is never wrong. Its for her safety, If she doesnt like it or doesn listen, it means that her attitude is not good. She might realize that after she gets into trap somewhere. (being practical and telling you the fact. Sorry if you got offended)

After marriage she has to get accustomed to your family style (Indian way). She has to change(atleast a little) for you and your family.

Speak be open and speak out. When she does not show any interest in this. I suggest you let her go.

Be bold and be yourself. If she keeps on comparing or complaining, you will lose confidence on yourself and will become a pessimistic person (in reality, you will go from strong man to a weak man).

soni1987 · Nov 18, 2012

Simple n sweet advice don't get marrried to her u will suffer later.... Neither she is wrong nor u... both of urs ideology n thinking are different and people say opposites attract but attraction is different and staying together for ever is different... Further its up to you.. Best of luck.

lukywife · Nov 18, 2012

Is she marrying you or your family? Why cant you guys change yourself for her and her family after marriage?

/After marriage she has to get accustomed to your family style (Indian way). She has to change(atleast a little) for you and your family./ highly chauvenistic statement

passionate89 said: ↑

You love to surprise her but she does not respond well or try to surprise you rather complain.

She compares others with you.. Actually speaking we may have 101 friends who are good looking, good personality, good natured, bold etc etc.. but even if our loved one may not have some of these qualities, that would and should not bother us to compare with others.. we should change their negatives in a good way but not compare..

You asking her to reach home early and safe is never wrong. Its for her safety, If she doesnt like it or doesn listen, it means that her attitude is not good. She might realize that after she gets into trap somewhere. (being practical and telling you the fact. Sorry if you got offended)

After marriage she has to get accustomed to your family style (Indian way). She has to change(atleast a little) for you and your family.

Speak be open and speak out. When she does not show any interest in this. I suggest you let her go.

Be bold and be yourself. If she keeps on comparing or complaining, you will lose confidence on yourself and will become a pessimistic person (in reality, you will go from strong man to a weak man).
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lukywife · Nov 18, 2012

This desicion is good for both of you!!!! You will get a morally good girl(according of society norms).I will pray for her.She should get a broadminded person who accept her for what and how she is.

Karanverma said: ↑

This is to inform you all that we broke up.

A tough decision for both of us but I will eventually learn to understand the reasons that led to this. She still maintains, she will never marry anyone in her life. At this moment, even I feel so. Anyway, I do not know and cannot comment on what future has in store for either of us.

At this moment, I can only wish her best, quietly go about my work and not get too much dejected. The next problem, however, is to convey this to my parents, who have made all arrangements. No, it shouldn't be a problem; I will somehow convince them.

I would like to thank each and everyone here for their time and advices. Thank you so much.
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ivlakshmi · Nov 19, 2012

This is good for u as i dont see love in both of u .. all the best.

krishlakshmi · Nov 19, 2012

You sound too be more confusing.Better don't take any huge steps/big steps at this time.Give sometime ,start analysing yourself which is good for you,.

priyanka12345 · Nov 19, 2012

A big no..

Right now you are saying you will change because you want to marry her and thats your aim.However the moment you marry her , you will feel more possessive and since your nature is being protective, you wont like she being with male friends and going for late nights. Its easy to say that you will change but its rarely possible.
this will in turn affect your firend also as she will feel cheated. Just leave this relation here saying you are not that compatible