babamy decision is based on your ideas. so please help me. i'm 28 and my wife is 26. my marriage is an arranged one. she is the one and only daughter of her father ( my dad's friend). we have been married for 9 months. the problems are as follow as: 1.i will leave to office at 7am and come back by 9pm. the problem is she doesn't help me in house hold activities. i have to get up at 5 in the morning and cook. similarly when i reach home by 9 in the night. i have to cook and eat.i barely sleep 5 hours in a day. her office timmings are from 10 to 5 and her office is just 10 mins from home. she has more time. all i want her is to help me she doesn't know to cook. atleast she can make a coffee ready when i return at nighldt. i can't eat at hotel because i have loans to clear. i earn 40,000 per month. i have a bought a home and car. the total emi comes up to 30,000. in the remaining money i have to manage all expenses. i doesn't know how much she earns. i guess it may be around 30k. before marriage, she told that her salary will be given to her parents as they debuts to clear. i said ok. 2. her office is only 10 mins away from home. the problem is that she always goes with a guy who is her freind. they both go by bike. i can't drop her to office becuase my office time is different. i came to know about this after 15 days of marriage. when i asked her, she said that she hates to walk. even i said her to go by auto or cab, she said i don't like. my car is an suv, so she can't drive it..my family lives in the locality for 40 years. each and everyone knows about my family. i don't want people to speak bad about her. he is with that guy for 8 hours in office. then she chats with the same guy after office hours also...whenever i talk about this issue, she said he is my freind. why u are suspecting me... 3. even after coming from office, she chats with that guy in ym. she shares her personal problems with him. she doesn't tell me anything. during the 3 month of marriage, i got angry over her activities and i raised my voice. she shouted back at me and she threw his key chain at me. it hit me on my head. according to her, she is happy if she spends time with her friend my parents left to usa after 5 days of marriage as my sister is pregnant. her parents visit her once in a month. still now i haven't taken the issue to both of our family. we had sex thrice in the first month. after that when i ask her, she says i don't like u. but she chats day in and out with his friend. for the past 6 months(after some happy intial day), i'm very upset. my parents will come back within 3 months. i tried everything to discuss the problems with her. but she says u are egositic, u are suspecting me.whenever we disusss this issue, we end up fighting. but i still beleive her relationship with that guy is just freindship. all i want her is to be 1. helpful with me in household chores..I'm not saying that she has to cook. 2. avoid going with that guy in bike. although its afreindship, family reputation is at stake. 3. a bit more responsible. am i expecting too much? sometimes i tell myself things will be alright and u will be happy, but some other time mind says go for divorce.......i'm too tired both my mind and body.