Sexual Needs Frustration - A Particularly Pathetic Example

You are right, Santhosh. I also prefer such types of persons. Many of my heroines are like that. In fact in my controversial serial SHE the heroine abandons her husband and family and goes out in search of new relationships.

thanks for reviving interest in a long-forgotten discussion.

sridhar

 

You are right jaijui. The society is still biased against women. And till we remove this bias completely our evolution as human beings is not complete.
I am like an ant trying to move a mountain. All my writings are directed towards accelerating that evolution.
thanks for the fb, jaijui
love,
sridhar

 

dear pad,

ever since you said that I did not respond to your post on Dowry I went back and searched all my responses and found that I have responded but you have not seen the response. In my reply to your kind wishes in LA 13 I have also given the links for my response. I expect at least you will see this response of mine.

Of course in these days you can't call a spade a spade in plain words. But there are occasions in life where when your needs are crushed and you are made to suffer you are compelled not just to say but holler 'a spade is a spade.'

I read about the vidya story. Vidya has to take a call on her situation. In fact even before raising a hue and cry she should have known that our society is still chauvinistic and that if she shouts she will be side-lined. She should know the price she would be paying for such an act.

In a way women are themselves responsible for such wrongs. After hearing about Vidya which mil will come forward to accept her as her dil.

But things are different today, Pad. There are not enough girls available in the marriage market. A very rich brahmin boy I knew went to see a girl. The girl said yes but the boy wanted to move with her for 3 months. They went out together. At the end of the third month the boy said yes but the girl said no.
The girl is now happily married to somebody else. Of course the boy is also married. You see things are changing these days.

thanks for the response, Pad.
love,
sridhar

 

Dear Padma,

thanks for the fb. Well to be honest, I am not a great writer. More than saying writing is my passion, I do not have much to claim in that area. And certainly I do not want to be an "awe-inspiring" person. I would prefer myself to be a 'love-inspiring' person. So there is no need to be afraid of me, Padma.

Well I have been thinking of persons like Radhika. Well you have given a sane counsel to Radhika. When we are cheated it is better not to publicize the fact. But try to silently compensate the loss. If only Radhika had silently filed for a divorce then there would not have been any problem. She could have talked to Krish and even could have opted for a mutual consent divorce.

Radhika could easily get men for an one-night stand, not for a life-long relationship. Men are afraid to go near a woman who has boldly advertised her husband's impotency. There is a deep psychological reason to it. Every man has a doubt deep inside his mind that he is not 'potent enough'. Radhika is likely to be rejected not only by the orthodox guys but also by the modern software guys living in metros.

And padma, you have raised another valid question. There are many women who are deprived of vibrant sex even when they are in their early forties. These poor creatures swallow everything for the sake of family and children and live a miserable life.

The reason for this is that most men get frustrated with their career at that time. And they lose interest in everything except money and cars.

thanks for the fb, Padma.
I am now writing a new series Oh My God! I have posted the first episode. You may click the link below my signature to read it.Looking forward to see your fb there too. And for one more time let me assure you that I am in no way, 'awe-inspiring'
love,
sridhar

 

Dear Raji,
You are right. It's her life and there is no point in pretending to live it when actually she is in deep trouble.
Forget about Radhika. I will give one even more pathetic example. You know a few years ago a lady stopped the marriage at the last moment because the bride-groom and his parents made unreasonable dowry demands.
The boy was arrested and all. But the girl is still waiting for another groom.

I am sure that the boy would have somehow "finished" those cases and would have married again. But the girl is still not unmarried.

At times I am frustrated Raji. The society's stand is clear. It's okay to demand dowry and harass the girl's family. But it is not okay for a girl to stand up against such cruel demands.

God alone can save us,that is if he is interesting in saving an unjust society like ours.

love,
sridhar