Hi Indus Ladies members, I am a regular reader of the forum. I have currently facing lot of problems in my life. Please bear with me. Problem 1: I am a 25 years old divorcee. Working in USA at the moment. The quest for bridegroom has started again after my divorce. I have been trying to find my life partner for some time now. I have spoken with lot of boys, but I am really scared to take anything forward. After two/three rounds of talks, I become really scared to take the matter further. Because of abuse and emotional suffering in my previous marriage, I am really freaking out to take anything ahead. Does everyone feel this way after getting divorced? I am very lonely too. Friends, parents and relatives have stood beside me like a rock, but there is a void space in my life. I need somebody to call my own. Problem 2: Now, I met this person online through matrimonial sites. He’s 34 years old. He is from same place as I am in India. He is a divorcee too. We have lot in common-language, liking, upbringing to name a few. However when asked to speak about his ex, he was really bad mouthing her. I was shocked to hear such words from his mouth. He was very soft spoken with me, but those bad words from his mouth are really scary. It looked like he had no respect for that girl in general. In his defense, the girl had an extra marital affair, so he is angry because he feels betrayed. He also asked me whether I cook every day, whether I wore clothes which were above the knee etc. Such questions irked me. I was pretty vocal about it too. He immediately understood that and made amends and explained that he’s a bad cook and would never be able to cook an edible dish. He hates eating outside; hence he wants his wife to cook every day. He is at a place where there is lot of beaches. He sees women in Bikini all the time. He said that he is not comfortable with his wife wearing such revealing dresses. Based on my input, what can one say about the guy? I never had any boyfriends. One guy I came close to happen to be a monster( my ex ). So I have not much experience in this area. Any pointers here? Problem 3: I feel there is large age gap between us. Do you ladies think it will be a problem? Problem 4: He is in East Coast and I am in West. He is pretty traditional too. He asked me whether it was okay to meet once. I am more than willing to meet 100 times before getting in to marriage. But if I tell him that I need to meet more, I am scared that he might think I am too ultra-modern. Because of the distance factor, I am not sure if it is feasible to meet often. Any solution to this problem? Problem 5: My brother is getting married in 2 months. My parents are wishing ( not pressurizing ) that I should also get married during the same time. While I fantasize that scenario where I get married during the same time and shut every one's mouth, I am really skeptical in getting in to marriage that hurriedly. I am totally confused Please help me. I cannot talk about this to anyone right now except you people.