Hi, I am married for 2 and half yrs now with a 1yr old son. None of the close ones in my family had MIL so I never got to know how it is to gel with in law family. These are just my thoughts and I want you all to give me your opinion. The first year of mge was gone in fights on account of MIL etc. But there are few issues in my married life, they mite be minor ones to most of you but I sometimes dont know how to react to these. I dont have anyone to ask. 1. My husband is not very outgoing, he never initiates a conversation or calls someone except his family, on account of this we have very few friends, I feel bad that we dont have any family friends or someone with whom we can plan a trip or share time once in a while. I am friendly, he doesnt stop me when I invite friends etc but he somehow (even though he tries) cant mingle that freely and we end up with ppl not being comfy with us. 2.My DH has few temper issues, he is the typical conservative thinking kinds, when he doesnt like something, he expresses his dislike out even if its my parents or his or my sibling or his or even in the shops. And they are not those 'major' issues where its not right if he is silent. 3. As I told previously, he is not that free person, so doesnt initiate a conversation with my parents or siblings or call them, its always my family that calls him (now they too reduced as there is nothing to talk!) when they call he does answer them politely but does maintain a conversation. I want him to call them and wish them atleast on their bdays but he wants me to call and then wud wish them. How do I take this? I feel I shud also not call his parents or wish them by calling them myself. I dont know if this attitude is correct. How is it in your life? 4.He gives too much importance to anything said by his parents, like if they ask pictures he reminds me everyday till I send them. He does what they want him to do, that is being a good son but I am carefree type and I dont do everything that my parents say promptly. 5. My MIL and I had problems in the past. She speaks very well with me but I only think its acting she doesnt really like me. Should I forget the past and be ok with her? When my DH finds fault with my parents, I always say.. "I have been through a lotttttt more from your mom and for these lil things you are complaining" He says "Well I agree my mom was wrong but dont say your parents are perfect" Its only on account of his conservative thinking he thinks my parents are wrong otherwise any modern person wudnt have a problem. How do I deal with these? He is otherwise a very good father and husband. But these issues pull me down and I have no idea how Im dealing with them right now is correct or not. So please share your experiences like how you would guide your sister. I just hope they taught all these human relation dealings in college!!! Thank you everyone.