Second Pregnancy

Hi Ladies,
I am in need of your help here. I gave birth one and half years ago. my present age is 35 yrs. In my first pregnancy, i had GD, Pregnancy induced hypertension (because of which i almost lost my lil one), Mild Pre-eclampsia, short cervix length (had a cerclage done for this problem). Had to have a C-section because of fetal distress.
by god's grace i gave birth to a normal baby boy. Now my problem is my cousins and my husband want me to have another baby. I am in a dilemma now. I don't have parents they both passed away when i was in my teens. My aunt brought me up. My mil doesn't help me with my firstborn. My aunt took care of me in pregnancy as i was in complete bedrest through out my pregnancy. She is suffering from arthritis for the past two years and I don't think she will be in a position to take care of me if i opt for another baby. Her husband is bedridden. so obviously i can't expect her to take care of me.
with absolutly no help from others should i go for another pregnancy. i will most certainly will be in complete bedrest because of compulsory cerclage for the next pregnancy. my dh will help but he has to work so i don't know how far help he can give me.
with all the above problems will i be able to give birth to another normal baby?? as for now i am not pregnant. if i become pregnant soon also by the time i give birth i will be 36yrs old. i know that if one becomes pregnant after 35 the chances of the baby being born a down is more.
i am worried that if i don't have another baby my son will be alone after we die. i am an only child for my parents. dh has a sister but she is not the helping kind. she wants all the help from us. she has a daughter.
I am tensed out of my mind. my dh has given me two weeks time to decide whether to have another baby or not.
pls advise me on what to decide. after all the problems in my first pregnancy what would you suggest. i need advise from all of you friends. Please help me decide.
sorry for the detailed and long post. but i needed to vent. Thank you all.
PS: Now i am a diabetic.
Chitralekha

 

Hi Vani,
No one to help me if i become pregg again. I can easily afford to hire help but hiring reliable help is very difficult. for my first delivery i paid 8k to take care of my son from morning 10 am to evening 5 pm( that too for the first five months) I also had problems with bfing the first one so i can guarantee that if i opt for a second child i have to formula feed. it was very difficult to find that lady also.
Chitralekha