Scared- Family Planning

You dont have to get pregnant to make your MIL happy. Take your own time. You have to suffer and go through the process not MIL
Go with your plan.

It is quite abnormal to have an unconsummated marriage. Look like you are ok with it.

But how you know you both are fertile without trying. First try normal ways. If it doesn't work then think about IVF. Visit pregnancy session in this forum to learn more about TTC and related topics

 

Can I ask a question? Don’t mistake me?

Are you guys “ready”,”interested” to have a child?

Your hubby is clear about his priorities and how about you?Is it for the sake of in-laws or society?

I honestly feel the guy and the girl should be totally ready and a child as Only then the child will get a happy childhood/family.

If else,even the least work will seem like such a difficult chore!

Really Sorry if I said something wrong.Analyse
Your priorities and then be ready for what come may.

Now..honestly though we speak of equality sometimes unfortunately,the woman might not get all the help she needs.your hubby be it in six years or 10 years might always say he is busy.Worklife could tough be it for men or women as we need savings etc.We somehow have to work it out.Are your in-laws,parents ready to lend a helping hand..Even otherwise am sure you can do it.


Now for preparation..

1) Tell yourself you can do it as zillion women are doing it with no help.

2)You can conceive in the first attempt or some medical help might be required.Nothing wrong about it.

3) Prenatal vitamins.Very important.

4) Read articles especially positive articles regarding kids.One thing I learnt is..internet so many opinions each from their perspective.So take it with a neutral mind.

5)Start yoga and walking.Add meditation.You can also do gym but do not over exert yourself.Be active.Vert important.

6)Don’t stress yourself for a kid.Thats the biggest enemy and let it happen when it has to.We can only do so much.

7)Believe in God.Miracles DO happen.


Good luck.

 

In these modern times, we have such a lot of help on the internet. Videos of pretty much everything is on youtube.

Watch instructional videos on the use of condom, and other birth control devices. Your ob/gyn can prescribe you (she has to find the right size) a diaphragm, if you both find condom not to your tactical/tactile liking.

 

Anomalies in External Ultrasound would have to be rechecked over time - to see if they had persisted, to see if their dimensions, locations have changed.
As for the question reg. diaphragm, it is best you go with instructional videos, FAQ's, and the advice of a real Ob/gyn. When you are at the doctor, describe your history of irregularity with periods, ask her about birth control pills to steady the regularity of periods, (not for longer term use).

 

Its quite alarming that you haven’t consummated your marriage despite being married for 3 years, I understand your concern but for a man to stay away is tough since it is his biological need.

1.Forget about mil/others or whether you will receive enough help or not, talk to your husband about your concerns and start working on your marriage first - emotional and physical bond is very much needed for a happy marriage.

2.Help is always a blessing from parents and/or in laws but always be prepared to handle things independently, also not finding time etc shouldn’t be the reasons to postpone your plan of having a kid since a woman’s biological clock ticks faster after 30-35 and waits for none.

3.Plan for a kid when you both are ready.Eat healthy, be active, take prenatal vitamins, get the required tests done and take medications if needed to regularise your periods.There are several ovulation calendars/apps online that could help conceive naturally.Remember to be stress free.

4.Pcod patients might have issues, but each case is different and there are women out there who have conceived naturally.If nothing works out say for a year or two then you can probably seek medical help for conception.

 

As for mil.....tell husband to deal with her questions or you will have to tell her that sex is necesssary for concieving a child.

Are you sure you are asexual ?