Relationships Forum Chatter & Grey Matter

Excuse me....... Relationship nation wants to know..... seniors means? veterans means? Is there some award? : )

 

Not hurt, more like it caused me to pause. Got a little tired of the hugs and poor-you's being shared with no concrete steps OP could take.

Once a person with a toddler has made a choice to stay on in an abusive marriage, has decided to bring another child into the marriage, there is a responsibility on that person to examine one's choice, behavior, reasons for choice, and continue to do so periodically so that the marriage and household remain liveable. Suggesting that is not devil's advocating, shaming the victim or cruel.

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On to a lighter thought.. I was thinking to myself.. if I were younger and had issues, would have liked to have you as resource #1 for steps/solutions. : ) Was recalling some chota-mota stuff of long ago, and thought:
tab ym hoti hoti to kaisa hota
ym yeh kehti, ym woh kehti
ym is baat pe hairan hoti
ym us baat pe kitni hasti
ym hoti to aisa hota

( at that time if yellowmango was there, then how would it be. ym would say this. ym would say that. ym would be shocked at that. ym would have laughed to hear that. )

 

Dang. Was hoping for at least Ma'am. : ) Then, I could look up elegant chignon styles to suit the title.

 

General question on how to tell host about changed holiday plans... Reunion of sorts happening in a U.S. city over the Sept long weekend. Mix of friends from college and first job. One friend's kid getting married. Usually, people living in the reunion venue city host visiting families, one each.

Four of us going. Three nights. The family hosting us is a couple with both kids in college. Was going to be just them two and us four. Now, got a text that her brother, his family and in-laws, and one cousin from India (total 7 ) will also be there at that time. 13 in the house. : ) She says we can go to the National Park etc together in their minivan and our rented one.

Not going to work for us. I have to text or call back and say we'll stay in a hotel or airbnb. Tell it frankly, or come up with an excuse? I don't mind their change of plans. Family comes first.

I told DH we'll stay one night (landing at 11 pm) and then find some excuse like luckily found a cabin available near the natl park.... he says no way.

Would they be offended or relieved if we tell them we'll stay in a hotel? I hate these whatsapp exchanges. Half hoping she reads this : ) but she is totally not into internet, social media.