Relationships Forum Chatter & Grey Matter

Stay strong and hope you emerge stronger from the ordeal. If you need anything, let me know.

 

Share a blanket...No way.. I need my space...

 

Glad to help !
Let’s hope that x ( Rihana’s vocab) is not inversely proportional to y ( y= number of days that sandy is allowed to be on IL)
P.S If you need to use this word ever ( hopefully not ) and can’t remember how to pronounce, remember hrithik roshan ! His first movie “ cojone pyaar hain “

 

Too many gaps in the ' son turned sour' story....too much naivety.
There is enough said in the op to suggest things were bad between the two families.

Things were fine and communication was good till they took off from India and the boy turned sour by the time they landed????
For a good boy not to turn up at the airport to pick up parents,things have to be really bad .


On a lighter note ,when we were kids and parents were out for party and we siblings would have big fights.....we wanted to be the first to the door so that we could be the first one to tell our side of the story.


Moral of the story......lets teach our sons and daughters to do the fair things and not just be good sons and daughters who always do what we tell them to,who always agree with us. Let them learn to think and act fairly first at home . Let them learn to say no first at home without worrying about our judgement so that they can say no later if they feel things are unfair.

 

Those were the days my friend...

Well said YM!!

Why do hear- "he/she is a very good boy/girl. Always does whatever elders tell them to do?"

Are we raising children to grow up to be adults or raising cattle?

 

On that note handling a tricky situation at home, and seeing me upset about something ds said “Amma, I cannot be like dad, sacrifing/ adjusting to accommodate unreasonable expectations of parents. You raised me to be fair and I cannot emulate that”. I was happy he understands where to draw the line. As I said elsewhere theory mein pass!!

My dd has told her uncle the first expectation from a alliance when we search should be mutual respect to parents.

Sometimes I feel the parents are confused and make kid’s married life miserable. They raise independents smart kids but want them to be like the cattle that @SunPa says.
In that case don’t get them married at all be it son or daughters.