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I have told the same to my own kids, and they are trained how to behave at someone's place with good manners. But kids are kids, specially when they are too young like 2 or 3, they tend to forget all these good manners for joy.

On that birthday party, my older child was the birthday boy. He and his friends were behaving decently, until my younger child's friends came in.
Those 5 little kids played with the cake, and my own one happily joined them by forgetting everything that momma taught her before.
This is not right. But what I tried to say in that other post was, such things happen unexpectedly when kids are involved. We can't assume everything would be perfect just like adult birthday functions. Kids are kids, and we should be able to take it easily.

 

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True that kids will be kids! 2-3 years of age should be taken easily and at the same time other people also take the mischiefs done by them with a laugh.. but when kids touch the age of 4+ , they are expected to behave atleast in others bday parties.. This is what i have observed in the recent bday parties..
So i have already started my bit with my kid (who doesnt fall under the 4+ category yet!) to teach all the bday norms!! My kid is very much trained by his super mom ( ) now that he repeats the things taught by me before any bday party to me.. and I proudly pat his back for such good manners..
Still the line - kids will be kids holds good!

 

Training takes a while. Waiting, for mummy or daddy's word before rushing into things can serve them well life long.

Here are four, so well-trained:

 

But then don't they become @PoojaShah 's Momma's Boys? Over-training the boys only means more DIL posts on ILs in the future, isn't it? where do you draw the line?

 

Exactly.. this is my worry.
It took my husband a good 3 decade to unlearn whatever his mommy dear has taught him. He used to wait for his mommy's word before doing anything, even after his adulthood.
This is why I believe in moderation. Don't over train your kid.
Also, don't threaten or scare your kid to stay discipline.

They are not animals. They are expected to use their own brain and act as they grow old.
Animals can wait for their masters all their life, and it will be cherished by all. But that doesn't apply for human beings

I train my kids, but then I don't overdo anything because of social pressure.
I let them learn something on their own, and unlearn something as they grow. Kids need help from parents, teachers and elders to understand good manners. It is a slow learning process. It has to be taught depends on each and every kid's learning curve. Not all the kids understand and grab whatever we teach at the same pace.
And as @BDivya quoted, kids will be kids.
We adults need to learn this, and as well learn to let go of these kiddish behaviors. Particularly when special needs kids are involved.
We are not therapist, and we really don't know what is the problem they are battling with.
From normal kid to ADSD or autistic kid, there are different shades.
Acceptance is the only way.

 

My advice about training children is gender neutral.
In anycase, behavior training has to come early; over-steering a car on snow, or an adolescent in forin, would be fraught with danger.

 

I am very sure what I meant by 'training ur kids' here and the other ILities have got it right like @SGBV , etc.. And iam sure that my way of training is entirely different than ur way(which is depicted in the video) of training...
and we, almost 99.99% of mothers give a good 'training' on every matter on earth to our kids to protect them, safeguard them, train them to stay away from other not-so-mannered-kids.. and like every other situation there may be a few exceptional mums which results in the above depicted (video )way of training their kids and later on in the life struggle with their way of upbringing thus by 'training' their kids (!!) , leading to more DIL issues and large number of pages here in IL!

 

So... overall it is a positive thing for the IL website revenues ;-)?