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Relationship Hijack And Banter

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

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  1. Murano

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    We can't judge was where I was getting to!
    One could be genuinely facing that problem.

    Because we don't frequently encounter such questions in IL doesn't mean such issues don't exist.

    And BTW thanks for sharing the pic again. :grinning:
     
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    it was not judging, the language in the first post and in couple of responses surely said it wasn't genuine to me. why the thread vanished? any idea? am pretty sure the user must have pm' ed to responders, leading to be reported.

    if it was judging, am really sorry again.
     
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    Before someone reports and blocks us for discussing this here let's stop the discussion. :mask::mask: BTW didn't mean to offend you by saying judging. I'm sorry for that. I'm resting my case here.
    I'll catch you in bb thread .
     
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    @Murano @Anusha2917 I assume the silencer was for the post that has gone missing. I have been wondering if it’s a troll too. Maybe a genuine , but good problem to have :)
     
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    And as for
    You described when you'd have to wear the half-saree.
     
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    :grin::grin: You got it..
     
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    Yes, it is insensitive. More so, in a thread where OP goes out on a limb, and after much hesitation writes about things most vulnerable to a TTC couple, and then people respond with ideas not related to the query. "OP can consider all ideas and take it or leave it" does not lessen the most likely unintentional insensitivity.
     
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    In addition to the many thoughts already posted, here are some:
    Make a list of things that for you can make it seem less like a chore. Five would be a good number of options to have in the list. Use 1 or 2 of the options each month. Add romantic or erotic literature, movies to the list of probables. In particular, if these have made you feel like having sex in the past.

    If you have already been to a counselor and he/she knows your history and nature, it might help to spend a session or two on this. If you have to start afresh and you and the counselor/therapist need to get to know each other, it might not help, and might add to the stress.
     
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    :grinning: I did see some monkey part in your post . Didn't read immediately when I got a notification . Just went through it quickly .
    Wanted to come back to re read and understand it better.. But it stands edited now.

    Never mind. :grin:
    Thank you for helpful tips.
     
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