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  1. Amulet

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    your friends (especially the yet-to-be-married ones), called you aunty with the implication that you have had "the experience" of a married woman, as in
     
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    @DDream
    Ditto to you :thumbup:
    The feeling is mutual.
    When I read your post ,I feel..."yes,exactly"....but you write it so much better.
    I wish I had your patience:rolleyes:.
    Sometimes when I do not agree, I think...there must be something to what she has written:).
    It is always a pleasure to read your stuff.
     
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    Hate ? In what is supposedly an affectionate loving relationship ?
    Could there be a love-hate relationship within a marriage ?
    That is, One could love on occasions, but hate most of the time (or vice versa) ?

    I sought answers in google.

    This rather cute woman says there could be .... in her essay at
    Marriage A Love – Hate Relationship — Steemit
    In the photo [see link for picture] he seems taller, albeit her heels, because he is standing on one step higher

    The essay has a lot more than the tolerable amount of platitudes. For example, one paragraph goes:
    But the most important factor of marriage is unconditional Love and understanding. If this is in your marriage it will stand all the weathers. Trying to fit into each other differences is one very important aspect of marriage. More than being a husband or wife for each other, if we come together as best friend for each other and share a common dream for life, it makes marriage work best.
    However, one can read those highlighted lines, and conclude that she is recommending that when one is married to someone who isn't all that good, it is best to adjust. Yes, ADJUST !

    And 22 years ago, when they got married, they took a photo [see link for picture]. He was still pictured one-step higher, and she had bent her back and crouched down!
     
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    Why one way adjustment?
    Fight and make it "I will adjust provided you also adjust".
    Now after both sides adjust the next issues comes "I am adjusting more" . LOL.

    Sometimes our fight revolves around this topic. "Who is adjusting more". :tongueclosed::tongueclosed:
     
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    @Anusha2917
    I wasn't able to copy paste images... trying once again..

    Here is 22 years of adjusting ..... You tell me who adjusted more :tonguewink:
    upload_2019-6-6_17-23-22.png [​IMG]
     
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    Yes saw the image in link .. :blush::blush:
    Will go through the complete article in a while.
    Cute though .

    So recently when ILs completed 44 years of their marriage like every year I ask them same question . Can you share secret of your marriage.
    One word comes . Adjustment.
    But seeing them I can tell that there's a lot more than that single word.
     
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    Sure..there is a lot more. Adjustment is simply the euphemism for "I could complain, but what's the point...eh? It's not like I am going to talk to the Manager, and get me a replacement, no? The warranty expired a long time ago, and I am stuck with this."
     
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    :roflmao:
    you are the BESSHHTT .
     
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    hahaha.... @Novalis says that laughing at ourselves (or getting help from standup comedies to do that) is the best remedy for temporary wobbles of the mind.

    On the matter of "adjusting", I was told that bugs can become features when adjusting happens -- one other IL'ite said that she used to find the spousal snoring on the cama-de-matrimonio* a bug at the beginning, but now she cannot get to sleep when there isn't that lullaby that she had adjusted-to, and expects that background noise to be on when she attempts to sleep.

    *that is the spanish term for the double bed.
     
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    Yes. Wouldn't IL become boring and tasteless without Amulet's pinch of humor
     
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