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Relationship Hijack And Banter

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

  1. Amulet

    Amulet Platinum IL'ite

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    It is all a matter of a point of view....
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    Dushyant & Shakuntala in the Hindu epic Mahabharata. The son that resulted from their Gandharva marriage was named Bharata
    [Are those two roommates in the background?:frown:]
    source: Gandharva marriage - Wikipedia
    A Gandharva marriage (Sanskrit: गन्धर्व विवाह, pronounced gənd̪ʱərvə vɪvaːhə) is one of the eight classical types of Hindu marriage. This ancient marriage tradition from the Indian subcontinent was based on mutual attraction between two people, with no rituals, witnesses or family participation.
     
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    Very true. Marriage is an edifice built on the foundation of selfless love and compassion which is completely process oriented.
     
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    Edifice ?!! A deficit of compassion, and a littul selfishness to taste is the normal run-of-the-mill marriage -- perhaps Marriage is a 2BHK flat in an Edifice that is standing on the cumulative effects of everybody's compassion and selflessness. People make do with whatever they get "blessed with", and then invent the appropriate shenanigans (process. eh?) to get by, no?

    @Novalis : This "make do" is made up of two action words, but stands for getting by with the whatever, adjusting to the situation, reconciling to the fate. Neither make nor do. Isn't this clever, was this designed to be this way by whichever clever Jane who used it and made it stick ?
     
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    You drag this otter basking in her aperol spritz into a deliberation...eh ...what ...what is this gotcha.

    I see your point. A combination has less in common with its component parts.

    Make-do is not making something anew or doing something again but improvising on the existing. But, that's English. The impoverished English to make-do with limited lemmas. Hence the frustrated often construct a new language not making-do with the existing English ..something like Laadan ..(according to literary hub: pronounced similar to “Latin,” but “as if one were trying to sing it”).

    Notwithstanding (Mira insists that word too much with Kartik) the semantic collapse, phrases like "make-do" fail to convey the emotional depth in the utterance. Is the lady of the house making-do with ingenuity or with despair?

    Suzette Haden Elgin insists that we nurture fixed and unequivocal and not the derivative and perplexing languages to help people, er, couples to communicate better: "Láadan contains a number of words that are used to make unambiguous statements that include how one feels about what one is saying. According to Elgin, this is designed to counter male-centered language's limitations on women, who are forced to respond "I know I said that, but I meant this."

    You cannot have "but I meant .." with Laadan. Because what you say is what you mean, that too with precise emotion. The make-do of making and doing secondary meanings are disallowed!

    Unless you are that Madea who could pump vast emotions of bloody deep philosophy by overemphasizing just one word to Dr Phil: "Well when you gettin' got and somebody done got you and you go get them, when you get 'em, everybody's gon' get got."

    She had to make-do her entire monologue with just an overwrought "get".
     
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    Sudden thoughts on what sorts of edifices we all live in... And you say you live in an "aperol spritz"! go on, get back into it.
     
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    This system already exists in places like Dubai.. :grinning:
    Good idea to make money. ..
     
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    Aperol intrigued me because of the chalkboard adverts. Last summer, this Mediterranean ale was hailed by every pub offering this drink free, or nominally priced, alongside some grub. 'Come and taste our aperol!' would have long been forgotten but for the brazen and creative adverts. Do you notice the chalkboard slogans and puns in front of eateries? They are pretty amazing. Fixed board size, plain chalk, hardly ten words could fit in, yet some of them are impressive ...not just the aperol but even the steaks and pies. Mere ko koi yeh job refer kar de ..set up a chalkboard advert a day. I would squeakily over-indulge in that responsibility.
     
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    True many desis are following it in US and some are providing accommodation with food too :laughing:
     
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    True. I have seen that .some of my known families are doing that. Good for people who come in short projects. Btw Mostly girls are taken in as paying guests. Not sure what crime the boys did. :confused:
     
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    In Wisconsin (locally famous for its dairy farms, and cheese) there was this: "Come, and smell our dairy air". And naturally -- as the mod' way of making it immortal -- there were T-shirt sales [pics from amazondotcom]:
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