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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

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  1. nakshatra1

    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    That's why better to do love marriage.. not a guarantee but atleast less probability of incompatibility if you already know that person well.


     
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    Thank you kindly for the good advice about crossing the road.
     
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    Wat are the characteristics of modern woman?
    Modern woman means modern thoughts or modern in dressing ?? ;)
     
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    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    East vs. West stereotypes will go on to persist! Middle class and upper middle class families with children delay divorce until the children are "out of the house", i.e., grown up, legal adults. This is so that the divorce is simpler, and the lawyer's fees do not gobble up what could be children's college fund. The western people are just like us in this respect. Only the very poor (got nothing to lose) and the very wealthy (suffer from affluenza, can afford big legal fees, and still have money left over in plenty) can disregard the effect of divorce/broken-home on children and go ahead with it. Same in east, as it is in the west (suitably normalized for the procedural difficulties).

    The after-the-fact look at the early biographies of successful adults in the world would often reveal that many have come from judiciously dysfunctional families, and carefully-broken (just cracked, and not completely broken?) homes. Good parents ( not too poor, or not too affluent) in the middle social-economic class would set their priorities for what their family's life should-be, and do/behave accordingly. Common interests would help gloss over real, perceived, or alleged gaps in compatibility.

    For the moments of deep funk in an incompatible marriage, couples have to resort to comparisons (with other les miserables) and humor to tide them over. It is a blessing that we in India have plenty of comparative-couples to help us. NRI's write psychology journal articles about how our abilities for "low expectations" make our marriages the most successful in the world. Life is good.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Imo, modern in thoughts
     
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    As usual, I wanted to see what the (official?) google people had to say about that. Found 30-metrics. I am not modern.
     
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    Yesterday, I saw a post in one of the local facebook groups I am a member of. It broke my heart. A pregnant woman need a ride from the gynic's office. She called her husband but he said he couldnt come (because he was watching football). He asked her to take the bus. She goes, I dont have money.
    His response, "not my problem babes. You didnt plan better".

    I was furious. So were the remaining ladies in my local town's group. I see women living in such..how should I put this, under really disturbing circumstances. Its not just in india, it happens everywhere.

    as women, how can we help each other? Really, this breaks my heart.
     
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    A good start would be not making babies with Neanderthals whose genes do not deserve to be propagated.
     
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    Completely agree.

    now that its too late for this, I wonder what can be done. Most of us advised that he is not good husband material.
     
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    I dont see anything wrong in what the H said. She didnt plan better.. yes!
    Did she make sure that H agreed to pick her up? Going out without money is plain silly. Doesnt she know of a way to get home?
    May be its important for H to watch football match. May be it is his passion... what is wrong? Wife would have already known of his interests.. then y didnt she have plan B?
    Being pregnant doesnt put her first in everyone else’s life around her.. she is carrying his child.. true. He should accompany her to Dr visit.. true. But sometimes its ok to not!
     
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