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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

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  1. Laks09

    Laks09 Staff Member Finest Post Winner

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    Thank you! More than anything else, lucky. I just found employment again and the employer and coworkers are really kind and empathetic. Helps a lot.
    I shared because there are people like that. Especially those that haven’t had opinions or freedom in their day and age and seem to associate it all with a degree and employment.
    I would if not for DH. He’s a good partner and parent. He tries to be a good son and also balances between us. It just bogs him down. He also has a lot of stress because of our situation and unlike me has minimal family support. I just feel like her doing all that takes a toll on him more than me so I just minimize the impact on us. For me, he’s the most important person in the world and he says the same to me all the time. I feel like if I stoop to her level, it will cause him unnecessary heartache. As it is, it must not be easy because earlier I was the daughter they didn’t have but now a days I’m the DIL supporting him with them but emotionally absent. I know all of these remarks and comments and purposely doing things and hurting me is a way to make herself feel important. I stopped giving that extra importance to whatever is being said and done long back. I also stopped involving in their family matters and relatives etc etc.
    Does it still hurt sometimes? Yes, because of the years of emotional investment I had put it. I really liked your advice on the FP thread DDream. Especially the first lines. Hit home. I should have not overdone it but past is past!
     
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    After I had seen that MiL-DiL collusion TV advert to drive “the son” into the kitchen, I am seeing conspiracy in all MIL actions: @Laks09 could be suffering a MIL driving her son into the wife’s bosom for life.
     
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    This post made me wonder if she was married or not:
     
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    You mean husband would do all the chopping ;)
     
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    There you are!:tonguewink:
     
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    :lol:
     
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    I was expecting this from you :grinning:
     
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    Really? why? I wonder if my IL personality is someone too curt , not intentional though.

     
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