Relationship Hijack And Banter

ROFL... : ) Thank you Thank you Thank you for the random question. I was actually thinking of requesting thread to be closed and new one started as this became too heavy thanks mostly to my posts only.

>>> Is married son lying on mom's lap weird?
I'd like to add one more to that. Is mother feeding married son food by hand weird? (food = rice mixed with sambhar).

My brief take on that: Weird, like beauty, lies in the eyes of the beholder.

My weird take on that: Depends. There are ways and degrees of lying on mom's lap. The dressing of everyone involved. The context of the lying down. Is it just lying down or is the mom running her fingers through son's hair. What is the wife doing meanwhile.

Ideal would be the man lying with head in mom's lap and feet in wife's lap while she is giving him a foot massage.

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Weirder: What about married daughter lying on visiting father's lap while her husband is nearby watching TV?

Generally speaking the wife might be fine with it if the husband also shows his love for her similarly. Does he feel comfortable giving his wife a hug when his parents are around? A no reason hug. A "great to see you" hug after a long day? Or, should such hugs be saved for when his parents leave?

 

It is not fair to thus place the blame on OP there. That time management post you are talking about says at the very beginning that OP's 3 year old doesn't go to daycare/playschool etc. OP has been "pushing for it" and the "family finally agreed" but will only be starting a few days in the week initially.

When sending a 3 yr old to preschool takes so much fighting for and needs "approval" from family, I doubt the OP is guilty of "trying to do it all by herself."

When family knows a woman is trying to get back on track with studies/career, needs some hours to study, and does not agree to send 3 yr old to daycare, in the U.S. where reliable daycare options are so many for the 2.5+ age group, I don't know what to say.

Yes, OP there can say "NO" and "learn to do less" but having to fight like this for every single thing takes the humanity out of a human being.

I don't know... I take a very poor view of people who sit around doing nothing while one person slogs away from sunrise to midnight and all days of a week.

I was a SAHM and if kid doesn't start going to preschool at least few hours around 18-24 months it can drive moms crazy.

Posting here as the Festivals becoming Stressors thread is in the "Festivals and Rituals" thread.