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Relationship Hijack And Banter

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

  1. rgz

    rgz Gold IL'ite

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    If its any consolation, it will be disputed by most all kids. Rare is a kid who thinks (any) mom’s solutions is fun and cool (even if it really were so). Maybe after they become parents themselves, much later.
     
  2. Anusha2917

    Anusha2917 Finest Post Winner

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    @rgz an old ILite in new Avatar? : )
    Didn't know this. Her date if joining is much recent, joined after me.
     
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    She is senior to us @Anusha2917 :grinning:
     
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    When you say "us" then it's super super senior. Because you become my senior. And senior to you means super senior to me. :tongueclosed:
     
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    :yum:;)
     
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    Yes super super, but whats date but a number :greedy:
     
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    wow-wow-wow! your kids know your IL forum ID! See - exactly - adds to my point. Which mom shares her "secret" online world with the kids? the-cool-mom. :number_one:
     
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    Never mind the wow... I must now give you the magician's caution: "Dont try this in your home".
     
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    Anti dieting quote for the weekend:

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  10. startinganew

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    Here is my earnest question:

    When many nuclear families plan to have their parents move in when they begin to need help for their daily life - how will the dynamics work?

    I thought, the earlier the joint-family (with it's own share of plusses and minuses) worked because during their 50s and 60s (and sometimes even 40s), grandparents were active contributors to these families - helping with cooking, grocery shopping, raising kids, income, culture, experiential wisdom, etc. This integral contribution to running the household would have made it easier and more natural for the 2nd and 3rd generation in the household to provide as much physical and emotional support when needed most by the aging grandparents in the household. And most importantly there were many hands to help. Also the acknowledgement, appreciation and importance of the grandparent's contributions is fresh in their minds and makes it easier to perform their care-giving duties. (I say the joint family system "worked" not that it worked well because it has been on severe decline for various reasons which speaks of its impracticality in current circumstance)
    But if there is now separation and independence in these peak years (50s + 60s and even early 70s) - how can we expect a "healthy give-and-take" in this relationship? Or what can be done to foster a healthy relationship? I know it is not a business transaction for "give-and-take" to work. Also I am talking of the cases where the relationship is reasonably OK - with the trials and tribulations that most relationships have to endure.
     
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