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Relationship Hijack And Banter

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Sep 17, 2018.

  1. nemesis

    nemesis Platinum IL'ite

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    Sokanasanah! Shoka kriya soka?

    (the translation would never mean the same : D)
     
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  2. SGBV

    SGBV Finest Post Winner

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    These posters are the samples of real world that we are living in.
    If you stand up now, they will question as to why now and why can't you wait.
    If you stand up later, they will question as to why now and why not before.
    Thinking about these criticism and comments from the society, many women struggle to make a decision as per their own instinct.

    Standing up for their rights or not... and when to do so should be purely left to the decision of the survivor.
    There are a lot of things that influence in such decisions and not everyone understands that. What is important is that the survivor stands up against the injustice, and there are people to support such decisions without judging her.
     
  3. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    When a third person writes a post on some one or a news item , we discuss based on what we infer from the post and the information posted

    So all the opinions to stand up is also more for the benifit of others in the similar situation to stand up now and not waste any more precious years of life .....the two people we have discussed have made choices already good or bad...

    Also it is good to point out willing participation in the social evils for awareness sake because many of our girls are too happy to get married with hefty dowry’s

    Also it is not that uncommon to use spouse to get immigration status and build career ...
     
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  4. Anusha2917

    Anusha2917 Finest Post Winner

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    :clap2: This kind of thought process comes with experience....
    Good I learnt something from the post today..
     
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    Amulet Platinum IL'ite

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    Experienced people can wince in pain to read:
    She is still going on about herself and not the child !
    And the choice of phrase is especially horrid!

    One of the biggest advantages of a collective family is that lack of privacy (often decried by the NRI, and the well-to-do) , and the communal care of children, where everybody keeps an eye out.
     
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    True...but a lot of abuse also happens in the collective family.....and then the collective pressure to keep silent about the abuse also happens under the eyes of the elders .
     
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    I typed something similar relating to the two points in bold and I see u conveyed it beautifully. :thumbup:

    So I'm not repeating the lines.. :smiley:
     
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    :roflmao:
     
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    Vice versa
    Why would someone lose the right to choose what to cook.
    After all she is putting in all the effort
     
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    A guest staying for a week. Is there a polite way to request that he/she use (only) the bathroom attached to their room for bath and toilet?

    Real reason is that the guest is very messy, and the bathroom needs to be cleaned after each use of the shower or toilet. Would be preferable to confine the messiness to one bathroom.

    Normally, I have a 12-15 minute cleaning routine that I just do a few times in the day when the guest stays over, and I do it after each use of any bathroom by this guest. : ) This time, I cannot. Helping with the cooking and handling of food for a local religious event, and that means I have to do a detailed "head-bath" each day. Cleaning a bathroom negates the head-bath and the head-bath needs to happen again.

    My much amused child suggested that it would be easier to tell guest that one bathroom is off-limits due to <suitable reason> than tell him/her to use only one. So, we use only that one bathroom during that week and leave the rest for the guest.

    So, actual question is: Is there a polite way to request that he/she use (only) the bathroom attached to their room for bath and toilet for the week of their stay?

    Any one other than me cleaning the bathroom after each use by the guest is not an option. They cannot do it without making it obvious to the guest, which would be rude.
     

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