Regarding matches for second time - suggestion needed

Dear lakshmi, please proceed with caution. The fact that he is lying about his relationship status shows that he might even be lying about job, etc. You say that this match is better in terms of job and other stuff. Please verify everything properly. Now is not the time to see anything with rose tinted glasses. Please be realistic. The fact that he has 2 profiles with different relationship status is a big red flag!

 

Please be careful Lakshmi. Recently I got an alliance saying the guy is BTech. After talking to him I learnt that he is a drop out from college. He did his 10 and joined diploma. I was quiet surprised because he didnt even know my details where I live what I studied etc... He told me that he spoke to me because his uncle gave my email id and number. I had to stop here because he lied. He came back saying that he got engagement ring and was truly disappointed. I dont know how he came to this conclusion with one phone conversation and 2 chats.

Similar to you I also had same feeling i'm not getting alliances and am I screwing up let me adjust but then I was not sure if I would be able to survive with his lies life long.

 

No don't proceed. First thing about matrimony is one should not lie and that too lying about relation ship status is too bad. Your mother thinks in a positive way saying he may be lying because he is not getting matches. But I judge him as a person who lies to any extent to attain his goal. People with such characters cannot build a healthy relationships. Martial relationship must be built with honest, trust, love and respect ant this guys fails in first step itself.

 

Hi,
In my opinion,as you have mentioned --Till now even I am not getting any good matches to go ahead-- so if everything else is fine just consider it with a open mind.Its wrong to lie about his divorce but he can be a good guy.the reason for his divorce might not be his mistake. DO a back ground check then You could just meet him once formally and form your opinion about him.
Regards

 

When a person has two different profiles n a matrimonial site... thats a fraudulent act... I wud advise u to stay away from him however sweet he sounds.. coz we never know how many lies have been buried underneath.

 

if u have too many things going against her..then confirm he is fraud. Why dont u publish in office..do u have some folders or forum in office..where u publish matrimony. ofcourse dont reveal name.

 

Hi Lakshmi, i suggest get full back ground check done, if at all you proceed. And i am sure you will find a lot under the carpet. Also trust is a key to any relationship. I don't know how far you can fly with broken wings. This is your second chance, don't take any chance. Let all your near and dear ones tell you what they think about this. Go only if they are fully supportive and you are fully convinced. By the way i hope you are financially independent and continue to be that way if remarry.