Really really depressed

Hi,

Right now take rest. You r too confused. Try to speak with your hubby when he is calm. Explain to him ur problems.
Dont take quick decisions. Once u r well settled and ur mind is relaxed, think what u should do.

 

Dear friend,
Why are your in-laws making such cheap accusations about your DH and Mom? Maybe your DH wants to stay away from you and your Mom because of this serious allegation.
If you stay away from your Mom for sometime maybe DH will change.
Tell him that you will let time decide who is right or wrong, this way you can avoid taking sides.
You can also tell Mom that you will not contact her for sometime to prove that she is innocent.
It will be best to save your marriage as apparently there are no problems between you or DH.

 

may be the stress of baby making, parents forcing or brainwashing, you falling ill and all these issues from all sides has taken a toll on your husband...

finally he is also a human...he too will get tired n exhausted isnt it?? if he had supported you and was with you all this while....this is not the time to ditch him isnt it??

pls try to maintain good health....I always say this in my posts...if a woman is not in good health, the rest of the family falls apart...reason...no one can manage the house as the woman of the house .,,,,takecare of your health and may be its time for a vacation...short n simple one....

also just sit with him and ask him what are his complaints about you....yours is love marriage...so you both know what you were already before marriage...ask him does he feel happy if you abandon your mom...even though she gave birth to you is it fair to ignore your mom and not keep intouch with her? just be normal , be soft, be convincing and requesting and talk to him. dont get his parents topic on what they did or what they said....and leave it to him. last but not least...just let him know that...beating you with a bathroom stick was a big insult to you and you need time to come out of it...because even our own parents dont do that to us....let him deal with all this.

Again he is also a kid of some parents right? doesnt matter how nasty hsi parents were, eventually he would be intouch with them and keep in contact with them and want to take care of them...so dont buildup that hatred that one day you may have to choose b/w marriage n no marriagge...dont go to that extent.

give your brain some rest...cool down and think what is best for your life...what would make him happy.

as far as what your MIL did, try to avoid the face to face contact or talk with her..dont stand or sit infront of her...to avoid any kind of confrontation.

 

yep you work on becoming the bubbly person you were when you both were in those lovey dovey (before marriage) days.....bring up his enthusiasm for life....seems like now he is also in mad state...seeing everyone in bad and mad mood.

 

Dear Priya,
Your Inlaws are taking advantage of your ill-health and trying to widen the rift between you two. Don't fall in their trap, tell DH that you love him and for you only your marriage is important not parents.
Dont get mad at him, play your cards right and all will be well.
If he is easily influenced then you also influence him!
Be diplomatic, tactful .