Hi All, Just to give a quick brief, my mom and mother in law are here.. mil had some minor surgery and is close to 70, and not used to traveling alone, so got her here along my mom. I had my mom pick her up from her city and then had them travel together.. Mom also had a backbone surgery few years ago, but she is good.. Both of them can walk, do stuff, but mil is quite reluctant and doesn't even want to make coffee on her own. Although mil has been mean, I never treated her bad anyway and always thought it will be good to have her too.. I could have simply avoided her trip by telling mom cannot travel to her city and pick her up.. . I take care of all the cooking work, making coffee, etc.. The problem is dh used to do the laundry/washing clothes and dishwasher (before their visit), and me rest of the work from making dinner and next day's lunch.. The washer requires bending and loading, and because my mom had back complications in the past, I don't want her to do it.. But she never listens and keeps doing it.. If I ask my husband to help, he picks the clothes, keeps it near washer and go back to browsing on phone.. I asked him if he can bring the clothes all the way to downstairs, why can't he also load it into the washing machine.. Before their visit, he used to do the laundry, I used to take care of sorting and folding.. He said I can't wash your mom's clothes, I found it very rude.. Because I do all the work around the house and mom too makes coffee, serves food for my mil at times, and washes all dishes, we never expected anything from my mil.. The only thing I asked him to help out is laundry washing and I found his answer very rude.. All these days my mom was washing all of our clothes (including my husband's and mil's) and washing all our vessels, considering her back issues, I requested my husband to help with the laundry.. He said it's not my job to wash your mom's/ other ladies clothes.. I wonder why is it my job to do for his mom.. I'm not sure how to put up with such mean attitude.. I have washed his dad's clothes when he was here previously.. To give a little background, I work full time, have kids, commute an hour to work, work early shift, leave home at 5:30 am and come back home at 4:30 pm, then make next day's lunch, current day's dinner, then clean the kitchen, make tea for everyone, then spend few minutes towards my masters degree, then catch up with any pending office work, then go to bed.. I feel very stressed, now added to that I have to do the laundry too, because after he said in an angry voice that I can't wash other ladies clothes in front of my mom, I have to do the laundry too.. How is this fair? Should I stop washing mil's clothes too, but I thought it will be rude to do that, and I have been washing mil's clothes too, because the problem is only with my husband.. How do I teach him a lesson? My mom heard what my husband said, she came to me and said I will wash all your clothes, don't catch up a fight.. This hurt me a lot, I could sense sadness in my mom's face, but she didn't show it..Maybe she thought what a bad son in law he must be.. I'm so hurt..