Questions About 504 Plan

Keep an eye on it but hopefully as she grows older and more mature, it should fade. Any other issues - extreme activity, inability to sleep, lack of impulse control, lack of social skills, lack of friends because of impulsivity etc? I would look into those aspects before getting too worked up.
Focus issues alone are easier to work with. Usually teachers will work with you and give you the tips to help her along. In kinder, I’m assuming they will ask you to wait unless it’s actually hindering her ability to perform in a social setting. Third grade is when they insist on it being looked at.

 

I think a combination of both. They are different approaches and from what you say it seems like he needs it.

It’s a safety net for him. Even if you do private therapies take what is available in school. They have to stop complaining and start helping him and making accommodations. Take it up with them. Everything has to be in writing. Write an email to the principal with your son’s diagnosis and request the school psychologist eval and ask for accommodations in school to help him. If your write to them they legally have to respond to it in thirty days. One thing I have noticed in most school districts, if you have no issues or slight issues, all is well. If you have more than the slight issues they try to push back. It’s in their best interest to help your child but still they make excuses - time consuming, no staff, he’s fine academically etc etc.

For any testing issues they have to accommodate if it’s in in 504 or IEP(if issues are more complex he needs an IEP). Which is why getting that 504 is important.
STAAR btw I thought was for school funding, district placement etc. child has to pass it or forego it. There are parents I know who keep kids home during testing because they don’t agree with STAAR especially for kids with issues. I’m not sure of ramifixations if any. I’ve not done that.

What are they doing on their end to address it? They already know that he has a problem why magnify it. It should be addressed instead of sent home as a complaint. They are probably complaining because general ed teachers don’t know how to deal with some of these things. Maybe if he has a 504 and accommodations they will get some training to help him. They may also get additional help in class to keep him on task and provide reinforces. You can’t deal with what’s happening there by working at home. It has to be dealt with at class and therapy.

OT deals with with spatial awareness, shoe tying(hand eye coordination), needing hugs and pressure(sensory integration) etc.
The argumentative and frank talk and getting into people’s faces etc - CBT will help.
You can help him yourself but use available therapies. The therapists are trained to identify and fix issues, train you to help him and make him succeed.

 

She seems to be well adjusted and not having trouble building peer relationships.

It’s possible. It’s also possible that she’s able to process it all quickly and move on to other more interesting things. It’s also likely that she is a kid who need constant challenges to keep going and gets easily bored with things that don’t challenge her. My daughter was like that. It was tough because she was never mentally present in the class(always knew everything though).