Dear all, I have many ladies say here and in real life as well that their husband is 'otherwise a great dad' and that is the reason they dont want a divorce. I am really unable to comprehend this contradicting statement. How can a man be a great dad if he cant be a reasonable husband? For the better functioning of a family isn't the overall dynamics more important? According to me, a good dad 1) First and foremost will respect his wife and her decisions. He should not impose his ideas on her and force her to follow the same. That is dominance and not partnership. So what will the child learn from this attitude of the father? that its okay to ill treat or dominate people as we like 2) Should not be physically, verbally and emotionally abusive towards his wife. What does a child learn this? that its perfectly ok to hit, shout and yell! 3) Should involve himself from day to day activities of the child. Right from changing the diaper to bathing to cooking to potty training to teaching, he has to do his share of work with joy just like how a mom does it religiously for her children without being told or nagged. 4) Should be responsible enough to start saving for his family once a child his born instead of spending mindlessly. Every penny earned matters and what is the point in spending lavishly to gift his friends, relatives when cant even afford to open a FD in the name of his child. 5) Should be able to cook a simple meal for the child without grudging instead of handing over a pack of biscuits/ chocolates if the mother is not around, should engage a child constructively like taking her to a park, temple, museum, zoo instead of giving the tab/ mobile to her. That shows his real sense of responsibilities. 6) Should talk and spend time with his children, help them out with their studies, school/college related activities keenly, should stand up for them no matter what, should not impose his dreams on them, should not force them to do things beyond their capabilities, should ensure that he contributes equally to ensure peace and happiness in the house so that the child feels save and loved in his/her home. 7) Should understand how the life of a young woman changes topsy turvey after having a child be it physical or emotional. I will never forget the extrucating pain I experienced during labour, breastfeeding, vaginal stitches, sagging belly, tremendous hairfall, sleepless nights, first sex after delivery, joining back to work after maternity leave, travelling to meet the baby in creche every 2 hours for feeding despite being in a important meeting..what not..everything was painful in its own way and I would never undermine it. He should empathize and love his wife even more for being a perfect mother, nice wife and a astute professional. If he cant see or do the things mentioned above, how can he even qualify to be a good human being forgot about being a good dad. So I would urge every lady out there including me to think, stay strong and never never underestimate the power within herself when she fights for her rights!.. Ladies Please add more as I would have definitely missed something. Le us make a protocol and spread awareness to break all the stupid notions. P.S: I am a mom of 2 year old and most of the points are from my own experiences.