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Purpose Of A Wife

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by BhumiBabe, Dec 18, 2017.

  1. BhumiBabe

    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    What is the purpose of a wife? This question was posed to me this weekend, albeit, the wording was far different and less friendly, but it made me think. What is the purpose of a wife? And in turn, what is the purpose of a husband? Do we have certain duties that we are supposed to fulfill, and by not completing these duties, do we negate our comforts or rights? And what are our rights, as a wife?
     
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  2. Sandycandy

    Sandycandy IL Hall of Fame

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    Depends who you are asking !
    For the traditional Indian male, duties involve :
    Cook lamb chops as well as dal chawal
    ( follow amma’s Recipe )
    Wash his chaddi and banyan with the soap his Amma recommends
    It’s all about loving HIS parents ( be a good submissive DIL)
    Pop out a male child just with a touch of his pinky finger
    Accept that all fertility problems are yours
    Be a nirupa Roy in the kitchen but a dhak dhak inducing madhuri Dixit in the bedroom
    The only question she can ask is : aaj khaane main kya khaoge? Amma ke chole or Amma ka RajMaa ( switch off brains as well as pressure cooker when RajMaa is done )

    In short , the goal of life is to nurture him, his career , his parents, his sister, his sisters kids and you are sure to go to heaven to give company to his parents .



    Then there are rotten apples like myself
    Who think a wife ought to:

    Cook only if she feels like it, there is take out for the lazy days or the husband can do the honors

    Not feel obliged to wash others chaddis or banyan if she doesn’t want to

    No lamb chops only karate chops

    Be a friend to the husband , support and nurture BOTH of us . We are a TEAM !

    Be able to speak my mind and say NO

    Chores are meant to be shared equally

    Respect BOTH our parents but feel free to not agree with any of them!


    Etc etc ....


    P.s Rotten apples supposedly go to hell !
    But who cares!
     
  3. Amica

    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    @Sandycandy, scoot over and make room for me in the handbasket.

    But what do you have against lamb chops? I was hoping for an air fryer recipe.
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  4. BhumiBabe

    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    :tearsofjoy: Nailed it. Telling hubby to make his own food or pack his own lunch is the Indian equivalent to 'eff you'. Am I right? What's worse, is that I feel guilty about it, before remembering that he is a human being that has the capability to make his own maggi.

    Despite all the modernization, some expectations never seem to go away. How does a working woman also successfully complete all the tasks of a homemaker? If we think about splitting the tasks of the homemaker, husbands still seem to balk, hoping that they would be off the hook, if they wait long enough to complete a task. I wonder, maybe it is not the husbands fault for expecting so much, because they never knew otherwise. A wife is supposed to do all these, but the husband is only expected to make money for the family. Maybe part of the problem is because we've never really outlined the duties of a modern husband.

    I would love to be a rotten apple with you.
     
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    eternalnomad Silver IL'ite

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    I used to tell one of my friends how in the olden days, women had less standing in the family and less rights in so many ways, ie. mostly not allowed to work but had to stay at home all day, look after the kids (not having kids was not even an option), do all the household chores, look after the in-laws and just generally slave away around the house tending to everything under the sun. The husband was the sole bread-winner and looked after all the financial matters.

    Fast forward to present day and surely a lot has changed but the avg Indian woman is still expected to do all of the above but most are now expected to have a well-paying day-job as well, in other words our responsibilities have only increased.. so go figure:neutral::sleepy::sleepy:
     
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    Nonya Platinum IL'ite

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    hahaha:grinning:... This is like a serial essay, with a next episode.

    Purpose of a wife is the same as that of a husband. Think of their civic duty, and punch out a few labor resources to help the economy of the nation. Ignore their own personal tragedies, and always keep the macro-happiness of the state in mind while doing whatever-it-takes. This is the meaning of the phrase: "close your eyes, and think of England"
     
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    I'm gonna repost a poem I wrote few months ago (I'm guessing your Husband is fat)

    Hay Fatso Stop Cheating On Your Wife!

    Hay fatso stop cheating on your wife!
    Hay fatso stop putting your wife's heart through a knife!

    You were friendly
    You were cordial
    Then you asked me if I wanted to snorkel

    Hay fatso stop cheating on your wife!
    Hay fatso stop ruining her life!

    Your wife gave you her body
    Your wife gave you are soul
    Your wife gave you children
    G-d save your soul!

    Hay fatso stop cheating on your wife!
    Hay fatso don't have one more pizza slice!

    You cheat on your diet
    You cheat on your taxes
    You cheat on your clients
    And sent erroneous invoice faxes

    Hay fatso stop cheating on your wife!
    Hay fatso stop causing me strife!

    You pretended to be my friend
    When I thought I was at the bitter end
    But little did I know that you wanted to feel my skirt's mend!

    Hay fatso stop cheating on your wife!
    Hay fatso drop that cake slice!

    Go on a diet
    Go on a stroll
    Take your wife
    Stop sliding down the pole!

    Hay fatso stop cheating on your wife!
    Hay fatso your dear, loving wife is your life!!!!!

    :smash2:
     
  8. nandinimithun

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    @Sandycandy
    You sure have my company in hell:)
     
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    ChennaiExpress IL Hall of Fame

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    Since it's hot down there let's all have a Barbecue :smilingimp::smilingimp::smilingimp:
     
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    Naari Platinum IL'ite

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    Deleted knowing the audience :wink:
     
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