Problems at Mom's place with younger brother

Hi all

I am not bothered by small issues for my mother calls me and she wants to vent out but creates anger in me about my younger brother.

I have lot younger brother and sister both have been little irresponsible.


Now brother is working and living far away, but still dependent on parents. For his expenses my parents have been sending him money, booking his travel tickets, buying his smartphones. Normally he will not call home but for money he will and he visits home for 1 day, he will spend 3/4 day with GF he is having for 2 yrs,..I was so furious at his behaviour. He will not come home at 1AM and not pick calls, parents are worried calling everyone.( parents did not know about GF that time) or he will come home late night and leave..not talking to anyone. Parents worried he is into dugs etc. phone ringing & busy always hrs.

Then came to about about GF, none of us liked her and her looks. Mainly because of
we had heard his calls, messages, love letters and her craziness and to top it all, stupid ness of brother. He started completely ignoring everyone else. Then he started shouting at dad/mom and all that. Dad will take him to 2-3 hrs away in city for his exams, but he will tell him to go back alone. ( he could see GF in same city). Many times he will take car to same city for personal work along with dad( dad also has work) and tell them to go back on own and did same to some family friends.

I literally started hating him. He has hardly been responsible to me but parents.

Few yrs after, he will call only to pressurize for marriage and meet girl.

Ok mom met her...she liked girl, not her looks but she liked her.

Dad had met girl for short while long before she became his GF. Added by brothers behavior, he did not like her and was "plain jane" for him. But when he forced and dad went to meet her in that city. He also liked her mellow and polite nature. so things progressed. Girls parents coming to meet parents (he is still away).

Now I am going to India with baby first time, and we have function at ILs for baby, lot of things parents have to do.


Many times GF parents call, parents for some reason, can not pick or can not attend calls or they forget to call back.
Then my parents told them that they are v.busy ( because of me, panning) for any functions. But this brother is desperate and fighting on every thing.

Probably they want some ceremony while I am there but parents have to prepare, buy gold etc for her. I am going to be there only for week.

My parents talk to her parents, they talk to girl, girl pumps brother, and he fights here...Mother calls me to vent and I get all flamed up.. why this guy is not mature at all.

He has never in his life thought about his sisters. I know parents are to blame for this that he never became responsible. I tell me mother to talk openly to him also and keep a stand. Tell him to marry on his own and he is not the father of house.

 

How we know about girl pumping?

My Brother is away..Things happening parents and her parents are updated to him by his GF orcourse. Small matters like GF's parents called my parents, but he did not pick up or returned call, GF's parents want to come to parents house at some specific timing per their schedule, and my parents telling them they are busy at this time, ( plus mother has to cleanup house, cook etc, shopping for me going home) with me coming, eating veg - non veg issues.. wow. But thats normal I think. I would have done same plus its matter to stress for everyone.

About beauty of G, I knew I would get this reaction from people not reading full post.
When you come to know about GF from FBs love lorn poems, heart-candy pics, messages, your son/bro acts weird, does not care about anybody else, without looking at girl you start hating her. Then without meeting or having any relationship we first judge from looks.

Parents did not like her when they came to know about her but once they met her, they liked her polite nature. I have not met her yet but I do not care. But I do hate my brother for doing so many things to hurt my family, because he is immature.

 

I am actually okay with everything ...its his life and I do not want to interfere at all.
But its my mom who calls me to unload herself and I come here to unload myself. Now that my parents have liked her and are ready, my mother is calling me to buy gift for her from US. Wow....