So you are not talking to inlaws because you husband is not talking to you parents . Do you expect you inlaws to make the first move . how are you changing the world right now ?is it by not talking to inlaws ?. And what is your feeling about India trip what so you want to do . You want to stay at Your home all the time or stay at both houses, did you talk to your husband? What does he say ? What is your stand if he says no .