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Pregnant - Should I Tell My Hubby?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by swathiudhay, Jan 3, 2012.

  1. swathiudhay

    swathiudhay Bronze IL'ite

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    Guys i m shivering while writing this....i found out today morning i am conceived...and i don know what to do should i tell my hubby or not?
    i am supposed to join a new company from today after long struggle with interviews atlast i have got a job in corporate...please help me guys my mind is blank...

    I wanted to conceive in 2012 end not in the starting....
     
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  2. indus2

    indus2 Senior IL'ite

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    Re: Please help me...

    Great News ....Congratulations !!! First, be thankful that you are in this position. A lot of couples wish they conceived. You have a good problem on your hands.
    Most companies will let you take a maternity leave after a few months of work. If you join today, you will not need to go on maternity leave until a few months from now. This shouldnt be a problem.
     
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    inlovewithmylyf Platinum IL'ite

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    Re: Please help me...

    Ur husband is the first person u gotta say this to... I don't know why ur having second thoughts about saying this to him... He has all the rights to feel happy on hearing this...

    If u wanted to work and not get pregnant until the end of 2012, u should have planned properly...
     
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    Chandrika82 Silver IL'ite

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    Re: Please help me...

    Congrats on the good news Swathi. As others have responded here, do take a quick peek at TTC, Fertility forums here in IL to get a glimpse of folks with infertility struggles for years together !

    That said, I can very well understand why you are apprehensive about getting pregnant at this time. From my experience with MNC's, most of them require you to be on their payroll for atleast 2-3 months before you conceive, and only then you can enjoy their maternity benefits. Is this the reason why you are feeling bad?

    To be honest, in the bigger picture this is nothing but a minor hiccup. I am sure your husband would have covered you under his insurance at his workplace. You can utilize that. Even if thats not the case, work until you can and take a break for delivery and recovery. If you are in IT, i can say for sure getting another job wont be that difficult.

    Share the good news with your DH first. He deserves to know. Good luck, and enjoy this wonderful journey.
     
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    blackbeauty84 IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: Please help me...

    Congrats on your pregnancy & job.

    Yes you need to tell ur hubby and explore what are all the options you have. Is that only you want to work for one year or any other reasons?
    If it's only that you want to work,Most company will allow you to go on for maternity leave if you are in their payroll for six months. Since you have found out only today & joining the job today you have atleast solid eight months to go. Good Luck.
     
  6. swathiudhay

    swathiudhay Bronze IL'ite

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    Re: Please help me...

    Thank you guys..i told my hubby and he is happy but as the lines were very light we want to confirm it again through a doctor.

    @chandrika: you have spoken my thoughts i am actually worried about the maternity benefits.
     
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    passionate89 Platinum IL'ite

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    Congratulations swathi... :) God bless you... Never give a second thought... cos there are many couples who are trying to conceive and not becoming successful... so in that case don give it a second thought..

    Yup you will not have maternity benefits in MNC as of now.. But it is ok you can save your leaves and take holidays...

    God will show you a way for everything... Have a great day ahead :)
     
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    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi,
    thr r many ppl in this world who are struggling to get pregnant.. u can make career at any time but not kids..tell ur hubby and take care..leave tht job .this is my suggestion
     
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    anuram09 IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi Swathi,

    Congrats on your pregnancy. Please check maternity policy in your new company. I am sure that you will be eligible for maternity benefits if you work for some defined (as per policy) no of days in the company. I also joined new company and took maternity leave after 5 months from the date of joining and I am on leave till now. Please give priority to your baby.
     

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