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  1. CuteCancer

    CuteCancer Silver IL'ite

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    Being clear about what we need and why can help lot OP. Try answering the below questions to yourself

    First and most important: Why do you need a child?

    What is your expectation/dreams about motherhood?
    Do you think you will be happy or your life will be different if you have child? If yes How?
    Do you think your spouse will be a good father? What if he does not want the child?
     
  2. startinganew

    startinganew Gold IL'ite

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    Yes, yes, yes ^^^

    No matter how much everyone might be pressurizing you - bringing a child in to this world - is not a tick mark item/achievement that you NEED to get done with. Your parents or parents in law are not responsible for this child you will bring in to this world - so please do not do it for their sake.
     
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    Giving birth to a child is not a big deal but after that what???
    R u willing to stay with your husband after a child??
    Otherwise what's the child future??
    Can u give him/her a good/better life even if you are divorced??
    Your husband is supportive in this??
    May be he you are ready to give the baby to his custody??he will take care of the baby as like you??
    R u sure he won't get remarried again??
    If he remarried means what's the baby future???
    Dont put a little one life in tragedy with out proper plan...
    If you are financially strong and even with out your husband help if you can raise a child you can go ahead...if not think again ...
    Now just you onl suffering it may be anything but later along with u ur baby als going to face all these through out his life...
    If u want a baby just adopt one...u can raise him/her as your own,once u settled in life..
    Bcoz am personally seeing a small kids a girl and a boy who lost there mother unexpectedly and his father remarried promissing them the women who is entering in to the family will look after them as there own mother ...and he got married immediately after 6months..that woman is like a devil and never feed them and always keep on beating them...those kids are now like a slaves to her and there life is worst than the slum kids.. everyday is a like a hell to them ....even his father encouraging his new wife to beat them...now she gave birth to a girl baby and these two kids are maid to the baby even she never send those kids to school properly by saying it's a punishment to them...
    Plz think again when going to have a baby. ..it's easy to become mom but it's difficult to provide shelter and food to them with out any help..
    Don't hurry...think based on your circumstances and decide..
     
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  5. Desiindian

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    You want divorce for the issues with consummation of marriage? or the husband? In both cases having a child will only make your life more miserable. If comsummation is still an issue, you have not mentioned how you want to conceive? Latest methods?
    Probably, after a child, who knows you may be back with a post Frustrated life, unable to separate considering child's future.
    Why your child should be deprived of father's love, when you have plan to divorce his father?
    I am still wondering what made you to post this kind of question in an indian ladies forum? You have been a member here for sometime, are you hoping to expect a gohead response from members here?
     
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    How will you have a child then??
     
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    shravs3 IL Hall of Fame

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    Not at all wise :thinking::confundio1:
     
  8. SinghManisha

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    You would be very selfish if you get a child into a dysfunctional marriage. Please don’t !!
     
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    We see lot of miserable kids coming from broken families or dysfunctional families.A child deserves a happy home and caring parents.OP you are confused with too many thoughts.please read the responses others given and take decision.
     
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    :eek::shakehead: wake up dear. Get some experience and maturity in life. You sound too anxious and immature. What problems you are facing in consumating this marriage? Why you are not able to find good match for you in matrimonial sites? A child is a very big responsibility and no one can leave a little one after giving birth to it. Please talk to some mature person whom you can trust. Take care.
     
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