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Post Partum Depression - What Will Change?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by winterhue, Feb 19, 2020.

  1. winterhue

    winterhue Silver IL'ite

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    Ladies,



    Recently saw this video shared by a friend on facebook . The video song is in malayalam - but I am sure all of you would relate. I read the comments section and the sad part is that most women describe it as "the worst time of my life when I suffered silently".
    How can so many woman describe the most romanticized and "divine" period of their life ,new motherhood, as their worst time? In the video, the husband catches the symptoms and i think many of us werent lucky to have that support. In fact, for most of us , this was the time that the husband and in-laws decided to show their true egoistic selves.

    What was your experience? What do you think you yourself as a parent/future in-law, would do differently? What would you do if you noticed a friend or relative going through it now?
     
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  2. AmulB

    AmulB Silver IL'ite

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    I had PD with both kids, dealt w/ mood swings, lack of support from H and dont know what to expect.. It was the worst phase, but love my kids to moon and back, all the pain is worth taking. Though the phase sucks, I guess mom shall guide daughters on what to expect and how it wil be like. But then, everybody's journey and support system varies, some dont even know what its like to have the trouble of bringing kids could bring, having the support system around whos constantly helping. And for some its hard and espl ppl living in US, this life is worst, managing delivery part, preg, PD all alone and if H doesnt support then its surely hell.. But the phase will vanish in time, as kids grow and they start to crawl n walk, you experience the bundle of joy watching them grow.. looking at what you've created, u wish u cannot have a better life than this.
    But the bitterness towards ppl who were unsupportive or made it more difficult for you will remain w you ever..
     
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    Needtobestrong Gold IL'ite

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    Nice video...many ladies silently suffer from post partum depression..
    Relationship issues, lack of physical and emotional support, sleepless nights, hormonal changes, the overwhelming responsibility of taking care of new born ..and so,etimes anxiety regarding career and career real etc...all these take a toll on the health of the new mom, make PPD worse..it’s upto the husband and family members to be understanding and supportive and get medical help if required.
     
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    Rihana Finest Post Winner

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    What I find now is that with increasing awareness, a rational request or protest by the new mom can be treated as being said due to postpartum depression. If I come across such a situation where people other than the new mother or the new parents are interfering and not backing off when asked to, I hope I can speak up and avoid all disagreements getting attributed to PPD.
     
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    SinghManisha Platinum IL'ite

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    As a parent or in-law I will stop antagonizing the new mother over how to take care of the newborn. The biggest support that a woman suffering from PPD can get is from her husband. Besides learning how to change diapers, the new father needs some training on dealing with PPD in the spouse. It is also important to seek professional help if it PPD persists longer than it should or is pretty debilitating.
     
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    Angela123 Gold IL'ite

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    Very touching video. It brought tears to my eyes!! Increasing awareness will definitely help new moms. Even though people call it under one name - post partum depression, lately I read, there is PP anxiety, PP depression and even worse PP pshycosis. I was not aware of any of it when my first kid was born. I still don't know if I had any PPD, life was so busy after the kid was born and there were occasional break downs and Dh was very supportive.
    Recently I read an article (with a true story facts) by a professor, in which one mom never recovered from PPD. She is 73 year old now. So many stories like that.
    I am glad people are more aware of it now and are talking about it out loud.
     
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