Hi.. My problem is my in-laws demand saying its as per their customs..Recently I had my God Bharai ceremony..In our culture it is not much..like in my cousins house or relatives or sisters house..only minimal clothes were given to wud be parents and new LO to arrive.. At my in-laws place they told me a huge list..CLothes for all family members and SIL family..and new LO to be arrived..Apart from that rice,sugar,jaggery,ghee,fruits and sweet..Now when I told my parents..they did not tell me anything but internally they felt why my in-laws are demanding.. So when my parents came..and gave them all things..she started commenting moment they left that they have give less rice..,sugar..they should be giving 11 kg and all..and we are not in situation to show our face to others..All girls parents give and all bla bla..non sense.. I know if I say my parents can give and shut their mouth but at the same time they do not like their demanding like this..so I cant say that give this quantity of rice and this quantity of sugar..but my MIL thinks since my parents are well settled they should have a heart to give.. I know my parents are well enough..but I also know that the way they manage money is not good..but I feel I should not invlove in their family matters and tell that this is not good..invest here and not there.. From starting the moment i started earning..I did not want to be dependent on my parents..infact i wanted to help them..Like giving them gifts and all..But I know my DH or in-laws will not like me giving then gifts and presents just like that..so I do not even mention that..but that was what i thought to do for my parents before my marriage..and my luck ..it was arrange marriage and I did not ask my husband about all these.. SOmetimes my Mother will say and talk about her friends..how their friends daughter call them on onsite trip or give them gifts.. I am lost in between my MIL demands and my parents thought..but in my opinion i do not want to expect gifts from anyone..I do not mind accepting gifts..what I mind is asking them..I believe everyone gives as per their wishes..so why shud I ask.. Now my doubt is what should i do..because my MIL keeps on saying that my parents do not give enough..and I do not like to ask my parents for each and every ocassion in the name of custom..