My Husband doesn't like my parents. They live far off, no interference in our lives. Ours was an arranged marriage. FIL says that some facts about me, were sugary and misrepresented, no shortcoming though. The relation between my parents and FIL is strained and my hubby is trying to be in shoes of my FIL. I think he should remember, he's Son in law and not at par with them. Though my FIL says me to give him time and try to change him...I feel he's fueling his son further by not letting him forget things. FIL keeps on reminding about what my parents said to him and its not true, etc.etc.. FIL always have stories to tell of his mistakes and with negativities to tell to his son, all in the name of teaching him about the big bad world, as if there's nothing good in this world....and what's hilarious is that after saying and talking all the sad things, he'll say "leave it" . I was not part of things when marriage was being decided, but I feel its just the way of saying things which got in troubled waters. My FIL and hubby both takes words in face value and can't interpret it positively. I'mbeing patient but I'm the only daughter of my parents, they wish to talk to their son in law but he's not interested. Also FIL and hubby are very good at pointing fingers and if I say something they'll mock me or term it as unimportant issue. I've been married for 6months only. I'm very positive and happy go lucky person, but this behaviour towards my parents is stressing me, am out of mental peace. Hubby is very caring, when in good mood. But its laways about his life, his thought, his family, its never us. I'm right now looking for job, coz I want to do it. Also if I'll not do job, I''ll be worthless for my hubby. But this he knew from the beginning that I was not in job. He says he wanted a working spouse, I tell him, why he agreed to marry me. My parents though don't know many things, can sense the situation and tell me to be patient and be happy..but how? How can I be happy if my parents are totally being disregarded and ignored. I never had any airy castles about my life, but atleast I wanted my hubby to be like a son to his IL's, atleast a gentleman, was it too much? The marriage has totally lost me, don't know how to manage it, and why only I should be silent and manage it? Hubby wants me to talk to him, I tried, but found that it is of no importance to him. Now I don't discuss any thing of my issues with him. Why should I, if he's isn't concerned or serious about it, I'm not story-telling him. Also, whenever he tlaks with me, he's very negative, about me, my parents and our future....only has complaints...it pisses me off gr8 deal and lost my interest in talking with him. Please help. How women adjust and manage their marriage?