hello, I wanted your perspective on the issues going on in my life. Things have been pretty smooth for me in the past year. I have been pursuing my graduate studies. I have been married and have a pre -K going son. H has sponsored my education and am really thankful to H for doing so. Dont know all of a sudden my H told me yesterday that we are simply dragging our marriage and that we should end it. Though H speaks as though he is a supportive husband, he is arrogant at times. Also i feel there is very little honesty in our relation. Initially in our marriage, I have faced terrible times, which keep on hounding me even today. As in my in-laws virtually kept me under house arrest, didn't give me food, made me slog like a servant. When I tried to tell my husband, he kept silent. This made me feel that my H consented with the way my in-laws treated me. My SIL also showed lot of rivalry, ridiculed me. She used to completely take over my husband, like eat in one plate with him, walk hand in hand with him, sleep with him on sofa. My H gave explanation that is how close bro-sis relation they have since they were born. After 1 year of my marriage, they built a new house, where my MIL and I had a spat. Obviously my H chose to desert me with my 3 month old son. I was in a very helpless state as I had given up my job then for H and DS. I was a new mom, lots of health issues, took a new job and some how survived the period. He and ILs didn't even care to ask if i was alive or dead. Since there was lot of pressure from my parents side to patch up with him, we finally patched up after 1.5 years. Still he used to tell we were better off being separated. Somehow sub consciously I agreed with him though outwardly I kept quiet. Recently my SIL got married. My in-laws as expected, didn't bother to tell me. Through other sources i got to know that her wedding was fixed. When I asked my husband, he kept giving evasive answers like - How does it matter to you, may be yes, may be no. I felt he was keeping it a secret from me so that everything goes well with her marriage. my co-sis told me, my husband was the first one to know of his sisters love affair. Before my marriage, i was very thin, so my husband had ridiculed me that I was thin to impress other guys, now that I am engaged I can put on weight. So as a backlash, I ridiculed him saying his sister is way ahead as she already had a love affair. He felt as if I assassinated his sister's character. I just returned the favor of what he and his sister had done to me before. Also, I could not attend her wedding because my final exams were going on. So my H and DS alone went to her wedding. This has annoyed everyone, so to annoy me further, my H said the marriage went on well since I didn't attend. Also I told H to eat in one plate with his sister in front of her husband. He didnt do so. So I felt he had exploited my vulnerable position in his house. When I was newly wed, they used to eat in one plate but why not in front of SIL's husband now? The good side of my marriage is, he sponsored my education, gives me a decent living in US, spends on my stuff ,say for books, clothes, outings. People, what do you think, Am I over expecting or is there honesty lacking in our relation. Are lies and deception dominant in our relation. Why is he speaking of separation, time and again?