I'm posting this after so much hesitation and people who want to judge /pass sarcastic comments / Jokes please skip replying. The problem I'm facing is I'm somehow losing interest in having a physical intimacy with my husband. Been married for 7+ years now. Infertility is something which is haunting us. So $** is a mandatory mundane affair which is going on for the past 5 years with a sole intention to conceive . The first two years of marriage was super fun but we never wanted a child then because of our job priorities. Kindly don't advice now saying we should have gone for a child immeditely after marriage because it's something we didn't do and can't go back to past now. I cannot skip having a physical relationship any month because we have a glimmer of hope that this month will be that month where I'll conceive. Following are a few negativity crossing my mind 1) I have gone to a mindset that this chore which we are doing every month is not helping us anyway. (because I have seen failure not once nor twice but nearly 60 times month after month. 5 years amounts to 60 months) 2) Multiple treatments have failed so I'm not sure when next I'll make up my mind to go for it again. 3) irritated with the efforts we put every month on the fertile days to see no result. Also note : 1) I have a very good relationship with my husband. We never argue, fight and have very good understanding in all matters. 2) I lead a healthy lifestyle with mild exercise(walking) , having healthy food. 3) Keep myself happy and positive visiting my parents and sister who are close-by . Make a point to visit my friends often and enjoy some time with them and concentrate on few of my hobbies like learning a musical instrument and dance class. 4) No conflict with in laws either. 5) not that I don't love my husband or he's not attractive. He's very much fit and day after day the love increases. Just that I'm having a mental block in having this physical intimacy with him. Now my questions are 1) How to bring back the spark in the physical intimacy which I seem to have lost for the past couple of years ? 2) don't want $** to be chore and want to enjoy doing it. 3) I have kind of accepted this childlessness . But my husband doesn't want to give up and puts a lot of efforts to keep the spark alive . And I feel guilty that I'm not putting that kind of efforts. How not to feel guilty? Kindly understand that this is a genuine problem I'm facing and a very personal one .Unable to share it with closed ones. Hence choosing this forum. Any inputs would be appreciated and will any sort of counselling help me?